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He said he will not forgive me and its unfair for me

User Profile: LostInGame
LostInGame September 24th

Hi, I'm married, and stumbled upon an online game. I feel like there is something is missing in our marriage or my husband was always busy and away that's why I tried looking for games to pass my time. I found this interactive game where you can marry other players and have heirs. I started in January this year. In this game, you can find a player to troth and you can divorce them too. So I had 3 failed troths already. I cant help but be immersed in this game and get attached to my troths. Long story short, I have found a friend in this game who I always talk to and share things with about my failed troths. I found out that he fell for me and I told him I have feelings for him too and soon after I asked him to become my troth. Everything was going well and happy until he suddenly went MIA for 2 weeks without saying anything to me. I waited for him to go online every day. Each day was unbearable because I feel like he abandoned me but I kept waiting. I tried chatting with other players to pass my time while I wait for him. I asked them about daily things, stuff about the game and how Im missing my troth so much and Im waiting for him to come back. After 2 weeks  my troth went online, I was so happy but it was short lived because after a day, some malicious person sent DM to my troth telling him that I was chatting with players, telling them I am lonely and alone, forcing them to troth me and telling them that I miss them so much and all sorts of other lies. I told my troth its true I chatted with other players to pass my time while I wait for him, but I never told them I miss them and forcing them to troth me. Everyone in the servers we played with knows how I love my troth and that I am waiting for him always. Anyway, sadly my troth didn't believe me and wants to end things with me. I love this person so much, since January until now he was my support person, my best friend and confidant. We have shared so many moments together but with my 1 mistake of entertaining other players by chatting with them, everything is just falling apart. I tried begging him not to leave and break up with me. he said he loves me but the pain keeps haunting him and he just wants it to stop. I know this isnt the real world, its just a game but I already invested time and feelings. I know I should focus on my real life but I dont know how to move on from this.

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User Profile: powerfulPapaya5589
powerfulPapaya5589 September 24th

@LostInGame Im so sorry that you have lost your support person-it is completely natural to morn that! mourning takes time for most, unfortunately, so it may be a while where you have to sit with this pain. If you can, find someone to whom or somewhere you can verbalize your feelings. I'm alsways ope to it if you ever feel like you need to talk about him!

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User Profile: LostInGame
LostInGame OP September 24th

@powerfulPapaya5589 thank you so much...

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powerfulPapaya5589 September 24th

@LostInGame of course! how are you feeling right now?

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LostInGame OP September 24th

@powerfulPapaya5589 I'm trying my best to hang in there..but honestly,,every bit of me is breaking..

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User Profile: powerfulPapaya5589
powerfulPapaya5589 September 24th

@LostInGame I'm sorry to hear that- I'm proud of you and the strength you're using to carry on. It sounds like you've been carrying a lot of strife with you for a while now. Is that true?

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User Profile: dukeofdearham
dukeofdearham September 24th

@LostInGame,

it's not just a game. It's emotional cheating on your partner. Do you want to try to reconnect to your partner?

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User Profile: LostInGame
LostInGame OP September 25th

@dukeofdearham yes very much..

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User Profile: dukeofdearham
dukeofdearham September 25th

@LostInGame,

then talk to him, get counseling if he agrees, and focus on your relationship with your partner instead. 

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