Help please :(

@DamagedDad89

It is natural that this experience is so painful. Give yourself enough time to heal your wounds. Two weeks is really not enough given how long you have been together and all moments you shared. Losing someone who is important hurts a lot and the feelings you have do not just disappear which makes it worse. I think a person should consider therapy when it starts intervening with life (e.g. there would be a risk of losing a job or the depressing feeling would not let you eat or sleep for long periods of time). However, it can be helpful to talk to someone about what are you feeling and what it means to you can be beneficial at any time. Or if you do not like talking to others about it, it is also possible to try journaling and write down all your thoughts, feelings, and the things you would want her to know...Stay strong and remember that it gets better as time goes by.

@DamagedDad89

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through all of this. It's completely normal to feel sad or upset, it shows how much you valued the relationship and the commitment you made with this person. Take all the time you need to process this, and let those feeling out. You can also connect with listeners one on one if you feel like talking to someone. It will get better, feeling down is the natural process of missing the person or the life that you had together or just the routine you had built around this person, but time will help you heal. Remember to take time to care for yourself, eat properly and spend time with friends can help you cope.

It’s kind of like feeling every emotion at once. My wife tells me specific instances where I made her feel unwanted and the absolute worst part is that I agree with her. I was so wrapped up in my own head. She described once instance where she went out of her way to try to cheer me up on my birthday and I brushed her off and went to sleep. Now, all I can think about is how bad I was to her and don’t deserve her. I neglected her and eventually she found someone who didn’t and gradually their friendship turned into an affair. My wife is a good person, I managed to make this amazing woman do something she would never normally do. Now, what she wants is for me to move out and just come over her house to help with the kids and leave every night at bed time. She tells me she still loves me but cannot come back to me. I just want my family to stay together more than anything. Everyone tells me how pathetic I am for still trying to be with her after she has already moved in without me. So I don’t talk to anyone anymore. Sometimes I can’t hold it in anymore and I talk to her, but that always ends up being the same conversation. This guilt, insecurity, and grief is tearing me apart.