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He keeps giving me mixed signals

Emily309 April 16th, 2021

I was with my now ex boyfriend for a little over 2 1/2 years. We went through a lot together and we had a lot of fun. We helped each other’s emotional state tremendously. We fought sometimes but never over anything serious. I’d never been in such an amazing relationship. We both had a lot of trust and care for each other. But then he lost a really close family member and he was never the same. I miss him so much and I just wish I could help him. He broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. We’ve seen each other everyday since and we still get intimate. He even told me he could never not love me. He just feels like he shouldn’t be in a relationship “right now”. I love him more than life itself and I know he needs me just as much as I need him. I get needing space but I feel so discarded. Like I’ve been downgraded to “just friends”. I hate this and I just want my best friend and partner back. Any advice?

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diplomaticPerson9268 April 19th, 2021

Hey Emily, I can sympathize with the situation. I broke up with my ex about a month ago, not only he is my childhood friend but is been hard to cope without him. The other day he send me a text that he misses me and wish to continue our love but with no “relationship bounds” honestly, it was tempting just to at least have his affection once again, but I couldn't bring myself to do so. Personally, I have learn to not accept less than what I deserve; I have a sense of pride and even though I stood my ground to protect my heart. It still hurts having him far. I can try to put myself in your shoes and I can't imagine your ex grieving process. I believe that's a reason of why he is confused and decided to end the relationship with you. However, is not fair to say “you aren't my girlfriend but I am treating you like one.” I believe that either you are with that person or you aren't. At the end of the day, you are the one also hurting. Is not fair, to be downgraded when you have continuously being there for him. I am no expert but my advice is to guard your heart tightly. Is beautiful you support him, afterall I will do the same, but look out for yourself as well. Take care! 💕