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Hard blocked on everything

littleDuck444 March 18th, 2021

So the guy I’ve been seeing (and things were progressing and going extremely well! For once I felt safe and emotionally available for the first time in a long time!) we were on the phone he got triggered (he has trust issues from pst traumatic relationships ) and the next morning he texted me and said “sorry for getting frustrated and overthinking hypothetical situations that aren’t even issues with us❤️ it’s not easy for me to be vulnerable but I know I want to be with you and I know you want to be with me” and somewhere along the rest of the day, by the evening he was totally in his head spiraling and started saying things like “maybe we just want different things, you’ll be fine” and he was totally convinced that I wasn’t into him? And started pushing me away . I was so confused and panicking (and not sober) and I freaked out and tried calling him like ...a lot 😅😞 I’m not proud of that, I seriously regret it cause I know it made things worse but I was so desperate to talk and clear up any misunderstanding or doubts . He asked me to stop , I stopped and we said goodnight and I asked him to talk to me tomorrow cause I know we can clear things up . We went from falling asleep on the phone every night to him telling me I don’t care about him 🥺 the next day I didn’t attempt to contact him And give him space — I could see he was active on his IG but resisted the urge to send him anything. By the evening time I noticed I was blocked— on EVERYTHING. Blocked on ig and deleted on snap. I don’t even want to TRY his phone number because if I see I’m blocked there it will crush me even more. I’ve been out of town hours away visiting family (which I’m sure has contributed to his anxiety especially cause when he gets in his head like that I can’t be there to physically comfort him) but we were just counting down the days for me to come back next Tuesday 🥺 we had date plans and everything we were so excited and he’d tell me how much he misses me . I’m hoping he’s just blocking cause of the excessive calling so he can have space and focus on his stressful school/work week. And that once he knows I’m back in town he will unblock and reach out. Praying for that really. I’m not gonna stop by his place or anything like that cause I want to respect his boundaries but I feel like I’m going insane . Like the rug was pulled out beneath me. Like to just block someone out of your life without even a proper goodbye. I’m so hurt and confused . I’m shocked that I was so emotionally invested to even be feeling this much pain. I’ve been ghosted and left before but I haven’t felt pain and withdrawals like this in so many years since my first heartbreak. This guy was so special for me, I thought I finally got it right. Now I just feel like...empty.

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littleDuck444 OP March 18th, 2021

Has anyone else been blocked? Anyone been successfully unblocked ?

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sally2345986 March 18th, 2021

@littleDuck444 it seems like it was for The best since it seems he has unresolved issues he needs to cope better with that unresolved trauma from his past relationship. it will Hurt for a while but as time passes the Grief will slowly fade away, and No I never was unblocked when I went through breakups I probably did go back to an ex but it didn't work out and we broke up again most likely for the best. I hope you find someone who is more emotionally stable hopefully he gets help soon.

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carambole March 27th, 2021

@littleduck. We share a similar story. But in my case, being pushed away injustly has dire consequences moneywise, because of the house. He might come back to you in 2-3 weeks. Maybe he'll unblock you. But if he did this once, he will fo it again. Do you want this fickle relationship for the rest of your life? Do you want to get stuck alone with mortgage payments because you don't know where to find him? Do you want him to disappear when you have a newborn baby to take care of? If you answer no to these question, you need to think twice before you go back to him. Repeat this to yourself: you are not the problem, he is the problem. He is an avoidant man. He has a fearful broken little child with trust issues inside in. Unless he gets this and recognizes that he has issues to deal with, stay away (usually these guys will tell you that everything is your fault).