Feeling Helpless and Alone, Trying to Get Better by Myself
Last year, I had a crisis of faith, was utterly overwhelmed by school work and ended up distancing myself from my family and some good friends. I found a supportive friend around that time but we had a fall out and haven't talked since. I relied a lot on my significant other at the time too, but we also ended up breaking up.
I'm trying to rekindle things with my family and several friends. They don't know much and talking about my issues feels difficult. I feel so helpless and alone.
Looking back, I've come to realise that my ex and I really weren't right for each other and I was very emotionally exhausting to them (as well as to my friend who was trying her best to support me). I know we need the distance to heal but it also feels like I'm giving up my only safe space. They were my only comfort when things were really bad.
I realised that I'm not very independent and I'm having a lot of difficulty trying to get better by myself now. I often find myself making one step forward and two steps back and then having to start back from square one.
I would appreciate any kind of advice. Thank you for reading and giving me your time.
@thryth That must be so difficult juggling so many things at once. School, spirituality, family, breakups - there are self help guides - but it is very brave of you trying to regain your support system with family and friends! Talking to people you're close to and trust can really help. It can feel lonely when no one knows what you're struggling with. There is no shame in seeking help it's only human that we're social! Having a listening ear (feel free to pm) can help halve the load.
Relapse can feel discouraging because you've tried so hard so why are you falling back? But in fact that is absolutely normal, it takes work to get unstuck from old patterns, but that also means you already know what coping mechanisms you need to get back on track right? Here are a list of methods fellow members do when they feel down: https://www.7cups.com/qa-depression-3/whats-are-some-healthy-coping-strategies-to-deal-with-depression--607/
I think I'll take you up on your kind offer. 🌻
I often forget that relapses are normal, so your words helped me regained a little bit of hope in myself. The link you shared is also quite helpful! Of course, it's easier said than done (self-discipline is so hard /sweats profusely), but I can see the suggested coping mechanisms being doable for me. :)
Thank you for reaching out, @dancedance. 💕
@thryth Totally, sometimes it can be stressful to keep trying and stay on the "right" path so there are distractions/coping mechanisms for when we're not actively facing the problem to improve our wellbeing. I'm glad you found the link helpful, sometimes seeing what others that might have gone through similar feelings can feel more applicable to us.
