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Ex reached out: Advice.

User Profile: lillorenzo23
lillorenzo23 February 9th, 2021

The last thing he said to me was “don’t talk to my family, don’t talk to my friends, you’ll get your closure Thursday but that’s all you’re ever getting from me because you’re not the man for me.” I blocked him and chose not to meet to talk that Thursday. I’m hurting. Bad. So much depression and anxiety. Never felt this low. Two days later he sent an email since his number is blocked, of a laptop of mine he had. He left it in my hallway and said “just wanted to let you know I gave this back”. I didn’t respond and blocked his email. Fast forward a week from that (this past Friday), I came home to a note on my door mat. It basically said “we made it three years and both deserve the proper closure. I’m sorry for the negatives I played into the relationship. We had extreme highs and lows. I know I never felt good enough and that’s a path I’m willing to walk alone. I hope we can talk and be amicable or even friends. Take care.” This crushed me. I didn’t reach out and haven’t responded. I fight myself on it daily. I do want to talk to him, but more rejection is gonna kill me. What do I do?

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User Profile: MidwesternCalmSeeker
MidwesternCalmSeeker February 27th, 2021

@lillorenzo23 Breakups are tough, no matter how it happens. The truth is, you get to grieve the loss of the relationship however it is that you feel is best for you. Only you can know whether having a conversation with him may be helpful or hurtful at this time. Sounds like he would like to communicate, and I am sending all the warmth and encouragement your direction to consider and take the next step that seems right in your heart. Take care.

User Profile: phoebejones
phoebejones February 28th, 2021

Don’t meet him, it’s only going to cause more heartbreak - you deserve more.

User Profile: phoebejones
phoebejones February 28th, 2021

And he ain’t it.

User Profile: sally2345986
sally2345986 February 28th, 2021

@lillorenzo23 yeah i would not be friends with a ex doesn't seem like a good idea i am only friends with one ex because we only dated for 3 months but we just were better off as friends too different from one another.