Divorce and dating after
Im mid divorce for three years lawyers are taking there sweet time. My 20 yr relationship ending in divorce is affectibg my new relationships. I definitely have deal breakers and wont go forward in something not working. I have two kids and dont like how my bf of a year and a half complains about them. He is not a parent and my kids i believe are pretty awesome kids. He is very picky, almost wants them robotic, kids arent like that. We dont live together but ge comes over often. This has made me sad. I waitws to i teoduce them but now i wish i had known sooner and did t invest my heart. Unless he changes (but he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong to criticize my parenting g and my kids constantly) i cant see us living together. We had a couples counselor but he doesnt listen to her advice to focus on bonding with the kids. He doesnt naturally bond with my kids like others i have dated before him. My kids even notice this and mention it. Really not sure what to do. I feel i met my soulmate but it wont work with his inflexible attitude with my kids
@DesertDreamer
You sounds conflicted with the situation *hugs*
What would make you feel contented and peaceful in the long run even after the novelty faded without expecting the other to change much?
What do you feel would be best condition for the kids to grow up? Only you would know what best as it can be different for everyone ♡
Hmm I am definitely conflicted because when its just us, we are amazing together. I never expected he would be so not compatible with my kids. It is a tough call and one i have been dealing with for several months.
@DesertDreamer
Yep, I sorta get what you mean.... It works just great when you're just you as 1 person, but when it's you as a leader of your small pack (which you care and proud about), turned out it doesn't go so well. Conflicted indeed...
Perhaps begin with the end of mind ...If you're going to imagine, a perfect situation/ condition of someone entering and finding his spot in your small pack, how would he behave and act? Now back to the present, how far is him from that perfect situation/ condition? What would it takes to reach that favorable situation/ condition? Is it possible?
