Breakup, different family economic status, and me kept trying to change him to be better

Just broke up with a pretty strange reasons:

1. since the start of the relationship 20 months ago, my parents didn’t approve since his small family economic is not so good.
2. I can’t be open to my parents about his parents are about to get a divorce. My parents and their families are very conservative Asian.
3. I kept on pushing him to be better; learning how to drive a car, be a better communicator, be more talkative during family or friends meetup, yes I reflected that I am so controlling and I kept on wanting to change him so he could meet my family & friends standard.
4. I appreciate him with his strange hobby that I don’t understand but I am not supporting him like I should’ve been. He tried to identify himself with his hobby on his social media, where there’s this stigma towards his strange hobby and I feel embarrassed of it, so I told him to separate his hobby and personal life so people wouldn’t misunderstand.

i’ve been raised as a people pleaser all my life and my parents been controlling me like crazy too. I am 27 this year yet they still treat me like I am a teenager, 8pm curfey etc, they won’t even let me get out of the house. Sometimes I am calm most of the time, but sometimes I kept on complaining to my ex so he can meet my family standard.

thats why we finally chose to breakup, in a very mature manner, we talked, then we played the we are not really strangers card game once more, made me cry since he’s the one understanding me through these last 2 years, no one else does.

anyone knows how to deal with this in a healthier way? I think I’m the the depression phase of breakup.

and ofc for my ex too, i want him to be happy too for i still care for him and he’s a very kind & gentle human.