Breakup (3 Months Update)
So long story short my ex that I was with for 8 years, cheated on me, initiated the breakup 3 months ago, and got into a relationship right away.
I actually posted a thread about a week ago on here. Well I just found out that he messaged my mom 2 weeks ago. And 2 days ago he messaged my cousin along paragraph. Now I feel so stupid because I unblocked him and told him ( please stop talking to my family, they don't need to know anything about you.) once I sent the message I felt like I messed everything up, the no contact, and my dignity and my respect for myself. That message came out of my anger because I just thought in my head he needs to be told by me to back off but then I realized that I'm giving him what he wants, a reaction and I gave it to him. Right after I blocked him because I don't want to see or hear about what he wants to say. Now I feel lost because I know 3 months isn't enough to heal but I have learn so much and I'm continuing to learn more, Also I've been missing him and every time I think of the many scenarios that play in my head somehow I still feel love for him. And I really miss his family so much also there just hasn't been a day where I'm not thinking about him. Please help me, I feel terrible ..
@scarletCherry3980 Do not be so hard on yourself. 8 years is a long time to be with someone... and feelings do not stop just like that once the relationship is over. You are strong, you will bounce back and you will be ok. You cannot control what he does, who he messages, etc... you can only try and control how you react. I hope you are able to heal from this breakup and be happy again. Stay strong.
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hi I peach and I just had a break up as well if u wan any avice or can give some pls let me know
thank you
@scarletCherry3980 Why did you rush into another relationship, so quickly? Just wondering. If you do not mind me asking.
@calmMango9611 no not me, it was him that got into a relationship right away but is no longer with her
@scarletCherry3980 I see. I am very sorry, that I misunderstood you. I have a learning disability and sometimes, it is hard for me to understand, what others are saying, but not always. Please forgive me.
Hey, going through a terrible break up too right now. I just wanted to say it's okay if you can't do No contact or break it a few times. I'm seeing progress and I don't do No contact, we heal and move on gradually no matter what ❤