Anything other than time to help?

@kappa170

Its not easy at all. I have been in your shoes. I remember working long hours so that I didn't have to be home and think. I watched movies. I read a funny book. I hung out with my friends. Also, consider baking and donating them. It'll keep you distracted. I am sorry you are going through this. I promise you time will heal. You'll find someone better. Don't let this defeat you.

@kappa170 hi kappa am in your shoes now..same situation but it's a girl I loved for 4 years and it all ended because of external factors too.I work alone and don't have any friends that understand me in the current city..so every night when its around the time when we used to talk I break down...as I have no one else in my life who I could share everything with...also I can't throw away things that remind me of her as its probably everything I own...so am desperately looking for another job even if the pay is way less than what I earn were I can work mindlessly... I have tight deadlines and demanding projects right now with good pay..but I can't perform anymore it's like the joy and purpose of my life disaaeard... Hope we can get through this am sure time will tell...the hole in my life right now don't seem to have a replacement and I really need to move to a unknown country were I can get lost again...and leave all this behind..

@kappa170 it sucks imagine having a child together.. Like me. Anyway. When I remember my last breakups (no child involved) I started a new hobby a new class to meet new guys. Like dancing classes. Or martial art classes... And usually that helped me..

@kappa170

There is a meditation on here (I don't remember what it is called) that was helpful to me in getting rid of old memories that would come up into my mind. I was told to visualize these as balloons and as I was thinking about them, they would float off and disintegrate. You might find it helpful. Distraction has also helped me. I try to read a book quite often, and I have a goal of riding my bike 1000 miles this year. Yes, time does help heal wounds, but there is nothing wrong with a bandage and antibacterial cream and even a dose of physical therapy to help the healing along.

-Dave

Actually I do have a great tip: tapping. Mercola.come. you can do it anywhere and it helps. I bought a course from Breakup Doctor and a video in it showed how to tap. But I think video was from Mercola. For the first time in a very long time, I'm in less pain. Last week was the worst. Tapping isnt the reason, but it helps.