Quote: You Don't Have To Be Positive All The Time
✨Reflection: How are you feeling today?
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@innateJoy9602
"To feel is to be human; To be human, is to feel." 💜
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Oooh love that one. So so so true.
~ “To feel is to be human and to be human is to be vulnerable!”💜💛
@innateJoy9602
@innateJoy9602 thank you for posting this! I was just discussing this very thought in an online class today after someone shared that they put on a "positive" face and attitude no matter how they are feeling instead of recognizing and showing their true emotions.
@innateJoy9602
I'm glad some people understand. I've had so many dismiss my feelings so I'm glad to see this.
I agree that we don't need to positive all the time, but then at the same time, it's not good for our mental health if we're negative all the time either. My brother has been studying about gratitude lately because he has been feeling stressed with his work, and he also wants to learn more tips to help my dad. From the material that my brother has come across, he said that a way to determine if someone is more positive or negative (in general), can be based on 10 sentences one person makes. It could be any sentence that a person speaks, whether it comments on a matter, or just during a plain conversation. Breaking down each sentence, or based on tone of the sentence, we determine whether it was a positive or negative comment. So, if someone speaks negative points in 10 out 10 sentences, it meant their tendency to have negative thinking, is 100%.
Ever since Covid, my dad has become a very negative person. 90% of the time, he makes a comment that has a negative tone to it. He's either complaining about something, or his sentences will have a negative word in it. As his children (my brother and I), we can't really say much about it, because our mum doesn't want us to be correcting every sentence he says. So, she will remind him when it gets really excessive. I think the other problem is, my dad doesn't admit that his negative talk is a problem. In his early 70s now, it is really hard to change his trail of thought so that he doesn't always speak so negatively. We're all at a loss in how to help him change is way of speech.
In our case, we do hope our dad can be positive all the time. At least, it will be healthier in all aspects of his life.
@innateJoy9602
@Jaeteuk
I can see how that would be difficult for your family. That's an interesting take. I also believe too much negativity isn't good for one's wellbeing or those around them. As you mentioned it can begin to effect their friends and family as well. As with most things, I think finding that balance between the two is good. Wishing you and your family the best. I hope he can begin to see the world more positively. 💜
Thank you. I would think that my dad could be less negative, as my parents are Christians. But it doesn't seem the case for him. I my mum doesn't want us to keep correcting him, as it may make him feel bad. So, hopefully my mum can change him, even a little bit would be better.
I'm very tired but I'm still trying to pull through for the upcoming exams. I hope I'm able to enjoy the next rain and not sit inside on my 2 by 1 feet study table
@innateJoy9602
Beautiful post!
Emotions are there for a reason.
Each has a purpose, each puts us in the appropriate "state of mind" to deal with a different situation in our lives. Fear keeps us out of danger, anger protects our boundaries, shame prevents us from breaking social and ethical norms (like going to the office in pajamas, or hurting others) Etc...
We would be unable to function well without emotions (Antonio Damasio did brilliant research on this).
But sometimes sadness becomes depression, fear becomes a phobia, worry becomes GAD, etc..
We can work on these mental health issues that bring us unnecessary suffering.
With acceptance, patience and self-compassion. Aiming to feel better.
Moving forward the way we can, baby steps most of the time.
Reminding us along the way that "It's ok not to be ok."
@HealingTalk
Exactly. Emotions help us in sooo many ways. To communicate with others and to act quickly in situations. Such as the two innate fears we are born with: Falling and loud sounds. As you said, they have a purpose!
I love how you put it. When they begin to effect our mental wellness, we can work towards embetterment.
"It's okay not to be okay" is probably one of the most comforting saying ever💜
@innateJoy9602
Thank you!
Don't forget about Innate Joy 😀!