Coping With My BPD Mother
I'm not really sure where to start... I've been with my grandparents for as long as I can remember but I didn't really understand the situation until I was 4. My mother has BPD and cared more about herself than caring for me, so I was removed from the home. I recently found out that she is getting out of prison soon, and I'd like to have a relationship with her but I know that BPD can make that hard. Any advice?
When communicating with her, keep in mind that her emotionsare going to be unstable. She might say things when mad or sad that might cause harm to you, but don't take it to heart. I think talking it out slowly would be a good start :) Good luck!
@IamKylee123 Establishing contact with your mother after a time apart may feel scary and awkward at first. When coping with the BPD issues it is important to keep in mind that boundaries, boundaries, boundaries are very important. Using assertive communication skills to help resolve issues and establish expectations in the relationship are also big positives. It sounds like just getting to know each other after a long separation will be potentially rewarding for you and I wish you well in this!
@IamKylee123
I'm sorry you haven't had a good relationship with your mom. I agree with everyone who responded... There's some good advice there. I really think establishing and maintaining boundaries will be super important. Wishing you all the best.
Honestly, as someone who also copes with a BPD Mother, it can be quite hard. Mine would often shove her nails into my skin, smash her fist into my spine, threaten to pour tea over me, and twist my fingers and feet when I was a child. I chose after university not to have a relationship with her for a solid two years until she got cancer. Caring for her is honestly one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
