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BPD with ADHD marriage

SolsticeSerenade March 2nd, 2022

Is it possible for a person with BPD to have a happy, peaceful, and calm marriage with someone who has ADHD?

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QuietMagic March 3rd, 2022

@pioneeringTalker8216

Hi there--it's possible for people with BPD to have happy marriages and it's also possible for people with ADHD to have happy marriages. So while I can't find information on the specific intersection of those two conditions, I don't see why it wouldn't be possible.

Here is a resource I found that has some tips for maintaining a marriage if you have BPD:
https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/borderline/2021/9/how-to-maintain-a-healthy-marriage-with-borderline-pd

Here is a resource I found that has some tips for maintaining a marriage if your partner has ADHD:
https://www.verywellmind.com/marriage-and-adult-add-20411#toc-advice-for-partners

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SolsticeSerenade OP March 3rd, 2022

one reason: rage. kind of hard when both of you are pushing each other's buttons all the time. 😔

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QuietMagic March 3rd, 2022

@pioneeringTalker8216

That makes sense--any relationship would be difficult if both of you are doing things that cause each other to get angry and then you're arguing frequently because of that.

Some of the posts in this thread might be helpful. There are tips related to managing anger as well as communicating effectively when trying to resolve conflict.
https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/BorderlinePersonalityDisorder_326/Dealingwithanger_267254/

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Justanotherloser66 March 5th, 2022

Exactly our situation. I take Abilify and Prozac, she takes Adderal, we each get therapy individually and together...it works out fine. Anything is doable if you manage it properly and are patient with each other, lots of sex helps as well! I mean, just my 2¢.

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SolsticeSerenade OP March 7th, 2022

haven't had sex in years because he didn't want to after a fight we had years ago. he never satisfied me either.

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sadsally March 30th, 2022

j feel your pain. ADHD and body image issues with someone who won't sleep with me(who i actually AM comfortable with myself around)....but also gets upset when other men look at me. couples therapy starting soon.

i never realized how lack of sex would take such a toll on my self esteem. Def empathize.

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