BPD and wanting isolation
Does anyone else with BPD want to be alone? I know that there is an abandonment quality to BPD and wanting the person of focus to be around all the time, which I have definitely suffered from, but as I get older I find myself wanting to be alone more and more. I get tired of the ups and downs and arguments that happens in relationships (and are intensified with BPD). I kind wonder what it would be like to be on my own, and not be so hyper focused and emotional over a person.
Hi there @nania7707nx, I do get what you mean. I am experiencing exactly the same feeling. I wonder however if this may be a good sign: perhaps we are giving up on the idea that we need someone else at all costs. Perhaps we are learning to enjoy our own company and willing to work on ourselves, before we may be ready to have someone else in our life.
@nania7707nx though I haven't experienced this on my own, I know people that are going through a similar thing and are experiencing similar feelings. It is completely understandable; those tough times in relationships make us exhausted and sometimes not experiencing them at all seems like a good idea. Which it could be; being alone is a great opportunity to work on accepting and loving yourself and on your own self growth. <3
