Connection Issue

@Ryel9

Hi. Thank you for your interesting questions. I have no experience of personality disorder, so I don't want to comment on that. But, you seem curious about how to resolve issues with connection. I can suggest things that have helped me and you can see if they are any good for you. One thing for me was to work out exactly what I wanted from connection. What type of connection did I want? What did connection mean to me? What would a good connection look like? What bad? Trying to get specific is really hard and it took me a lot of time. There's quite a lot of information on the internet about things like attachment styles and similar things, if you are interested. My next step was to look at whether I was communicating the kind of connection I wanted. Can your partner provide the type of connection you want? You won't know until you ask. And you can't ask until you know for yourself.

I also hear that you are uncertain whether to stay with someone or not. This is very hard, believe me, I know. I think the hardest thing is that no one can make that decision, except you. I've really struggled, and still struggle with having the confidence to believe that I will make the right decision. But in this we forget that we know our situation better than anyone else in the world, so we will make the best decision for ourselves.

I think it is great that you are looking for information to help you. Asking questions is a great way to move forward. I'm sorry I can't offer anything easier or immediate solutions. I feel I've provided just more questions, lol. Maybe you need to find someone with better knowledge and experience that me. But I can confirm you are not on your own with these issues and I hope you are a little closer to finding the answers you are looking for soon.

Best wishes.