[OLD THREAD] Project Achieve Your Goals - 18+
Setting goals is the easy part...reaching them can be more challenging!
Having someone support you in reaching your personal goals can be incredibly helpful. Today, wed like to announce a new community program aimed at helping you reach your goals.
Well need both listeners & members to make this happen! Here is how you can get involved in this project:
Members:
Step 1: Post a goal youd like to work towards in this thread. Be specific! Goals work great when you can make them measurable. Usually that involves a time period and a number of times. Additionally, you want to start by making goals achievable. Do not make your goals too hard or you will grow frustrated and not be able to reach them. Much better to make them easy to accomplish to build your confidence right from the start.
examples:
I want to cook dinner for myself 3 nights per week
I want to go to the gym 1 time per week
Take 3 growth path steps every day
Step 2: Specify if you'd like a listener to check in on you 1 or 2x/week.
Step 3: Wait for a listener to reply to you! They will reply and let you know they will support you reach this goal.
Step 4: PM this listener to get going! They will not be able to support you by checking in on you if you do not first PM them. If you find that a listener has not followed up, then please post again and request another listener.
Step 5: Post your progress each week in this thread and also on your feed so more people can support you in achieving your goals.
Step 6: Once you have achieved your goal and the new behavior or habit has been consistent for 21 days, then apply for the Goal 1 Badge. We'll likely have several goals, so there will be Goal 2, Goal 3 etc. (Feel free to help us come up with better names!)
Listeners:
Step 1: Wait for members to share their goals in this thread! When you see a goal/member youd like to support, reply to their forum post and let them know!
Step 2: Once this member has messaged you and established connection over PM, its your job to better understand the members goal, why its important and what you can do to best support them.
Step 3: Make a commitment! Check-in with this member twice per week and enquire about the goal!
Step 4: Let us know how you and your member are doing! In this thread, we will track your progress as team. Post here to let us know how it's going!
Step 5: After your member has reached their goal, let us know and apply for the Coach badge. More details on this soon!
Are we allowed to put our weights on here
@braveKitten4951
I'm not sure but i don't see any problem by sharing your weight here 
I'm going to get a new calender, i know i'm kind of late but just didn't get a free calender this year soo...
I will be refering to my calender daily to write down how much effort (precentage) i did to work on to replace about 7 negative habits i've had since i was kid LOL. I will take it one day at a time. Will try live in the moment as the days come and try take notice of the good things in life no matter how small.
I have through so much the past years, it's been really hard to pull myself together. But i guess starting small & simple is a good start.
@Kate30
I know. Whatever happened to free calendars? There used to be so many.
@Kate30
I know. Whatever happened to free calendars? There used to be so many.
@Kate30
I know. Whatever happened to free calendars? There used to be so many.
I want to lose weight. I'd like to find a diet coach to help me with this. I need someone to help me to be accountable, I can be challenging with this. I'm awesome at excuses lol. So anyway. I would like to lose 30lbs to start. Any help would be appreciated 😊
@turquoiseYard6069 @Kate30
I would love To help you both :)
please pm me here, and we can schedule something
@eunoia I'm having a hard time sending you a pm. It says I'm not a member but obviously I am since I have a sn and everything lol.
@turquoiseYard6069
Hey, sorry to hear, you are facing the trouble. Are you using the server or the app?
@eunoia I'm having a hard time sending you a pm. It says I'm not a member but obviously I am since I have a sn and everything lol.
@turquoiseYard6069
Hey there, i wish i could get a coach as well. It would be really worth the push from another person because sometimes there is only so much we can do to push ourselves.
@kate30 it's so difficult. I am having a hard time sticking to my plan
@turquoiseYard6069
I am having trouble too.I understand.
Btw, would you like to share why are you having trouble focusing?
You can do this.. I lost 33 kgs in 7 months without a doctor or medications.. I did it all by myself.. you just need to focus on it, believe you can do it just for your own sake.
New Year Resolution - Be more adventurous and increase my knowledge in all aspects.
7 cups Resolution - Ultimately, become the best listener on this website I can be and learn from anything from the past.
Hi @SenpaiXD - I appreciate your enthusiasm for being an accomplished listener at 7CUPS. It is a worthy goal. I have been examining what my success and short fallings have been as a listener and would like to share with you some ideas that may be an inspiration for your practice of being an accomplished listener at 7CUPS.
If this sounds of interest, I would be glad to help. Send a message to http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings
I really need to work on being kind to myself. It's hard, I think, because we are programmed to think that kindness to one's self is vain and selfish.
But "kindness" is so vague. I need to define it and set goals.
Has anyone ever done something like this?
@braveKitten4951
Hi there, I'd love to work with you on this project! I took on the same goal when I found out I was physically disabled and my health took a dive. I had to figure out how to accept that my body couldn't do as much as it used to and to set goals that were realistic and healthy. I would be happy to work out a plan with you, feel free to PM me if you'd like!
Hi @braveKitten4951 - having a goal of self kindness is an excellent idea. I think being kind and compassionate to oneself goes hand in hand with building self esteem.
The problem I see it is that parents, school, work and others hammer away trying to mold us into their image. Since they were brought up in the same way, low self esteem is a prevalent trait in many people. People focus on what went wrong.
I put a sign up on the wall "what have I done right?" It helped me be more kind and less judgmental to myself.
If you want someone to help you get started on the path to kindness toward oneself, I would be glad to help. Send a message to http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings
my goals were to complete my criminology course which ive almost completed and all i need to do now is loose weight.
My Listener, RelilientLucky has been faithful to check up on my goals, even before I ask- and even sent me an extra meditation when i told her I'm going thru a particularly stressfull time. Give her a hand,, CLAP ,CLAP, Thunderous applause, BRAVA
I am staying on track, thanks to her.
Hi guys,
I'm glad that I found this thread, I was looking for something similar, I was surprised to see this thread and a lot of lovely people already engaging on this.
It's been a long time since I wanted to go through the 8-week MBSR(Mindfulness based stress reduction) program so that I can learn the tools to cope against the surges of daily anxiety and occasional depressive phases, and to raise the level of consciousness.
I found a website(http://palousemindfulness.com/) where the program has been laid out as a course for free. :)
I am going to start going through the materials for week-1 starting from tomorrow. I read the introduction and getting started part today.
My university is currently off but it will kick start from the last week of February, life will get pretty hectic once it starts. I hope I can still manage some time everyday to invest in myself.
:) Wish me luck.
#self-improvement-project
I keep saying, oh I am going to lose weight, and work out, do yoga...yada yada, but the devil couch lures me in with its welcoming warmth and softness.
I lack the discipline that I once had. I've gotten soft and weak. I need to figure out why and how to stop it.
It's self destructive and I just can't seem to stop it 
Hi @braveKitten4951 - so sorry you are feeling challenged about being more active. I find being active in yoga, mindfulness, and home cleaning and maintenance has made some of my challenges more manageable. I would like to be of help if you would like someone to be there for you so you can expose your couch attraction to the light of day and find how it really does not have power over you. If you really want to change, there is a way. I am willing to walk with you down that path if you want someone to help you attain this goal.
Send me a message if interested http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings
@soulsings
Thank you for caring. It warms me. I am taking small steps, and am finding small steps are okay.
I am also working on being better to myself.
It will be a long journey
@braveKitten4951 I am so glad you have started on your journey and have realistic expectations of how long change and healing can take. Take care.
I wanna set goal but it is hard to even get out of bed n motivate.....
@smilelychee That could be your goal! :)
@smilelychee so sorry to hear you are isolating and finding yourself with little energy. It is not easy to get out of that place without professional help but it is possible to reenergize yourself to some extent with exercise like flow yoga and high protein low carb diets if those are medically approved by your doctor.
Feel free to send me a message or reach out to any listener for a chat.
https://www.7cups.com/@soulsings
If you want to find out more about how to cope with possible depression see My Path and click on Self Help Guides and scroll to Depression. <3
