[OLD THREAD] Project Achieve Your Goals - 18+
Setting goals is the easy part...reaching them can be more challenging!
Having someone support you in reaching your personal goals can be incredibly helpful. Today, wed like to announce a new community program aimed at helping you reach your goals.
Well need both listeners & members to make this happen! Here is how you can get involved in this project:
Members:
Step 1: Post a goal youd like to work towards in this thread. Be specific! Goals work great when you can make them measurable. Usually that involves a time period and a number of times. Additionally, you want to start by making goals achievable. Do not make your goals too hard or you will grow frustrated and not be able to reach them. Much better to make them easy to accomplish to build your confidence right from the start.
examples:
I want to cook dinner for myself 3 nights per week
I want to go to the gym 1 time per week
Take 3 growth path steps every day
Step 2: Specify if you'd like a listener to check in on you 1 or 2x/week.
Step 3: Wait for a listener to reply to you! They will reply and let you know they will support you reach this goal.
Step 4: PM this listener to get going! They will not be able to support you by checking in on you if you do not first PM them. If you find that a listener has not followed up, then please post again and request another listener.
Step 5: Post your progress each week in this thread and also on your feed so more people can support you in achieving your goals.
Step 6: Once you have achieved your goal and the new behavior or habit has been consistent for 21 days, then apply for the Goal 1 Badge. We'll likely have several goals, so there will be Goal 2, Goal 3 etc. (Feel free to help us come up with better names!)
Listeners:
Step 1: Wait for members to share their goals in this thread! When you see a goal/member youd like to support, reply to their forum post and let them know!
Step 2: Once this member has messaged you and established connection over PM, its your job to better understand the members goal, why its important and what you can do to best support them.
Step 3: Make a commitment! Check-in with this member twice per week and enquire about the goal!
Step 4: Let us know how you and your member are doing! In this thread, we will track your progress as team. Post here to let us know how it's going!
Step 5: After your member has reached their goal, let us know and apply for the Coach badge. More details on this soon!
I have my exams due at may 2015. It is my fourth chance. i had panicked two times and did not even register for exam the third time. I want to do it this time. To be honest, i am diagnosed with depression too. May be i am worried over silly things like people labeling me as a mediocre or below average. Or may be I am jealous of those people who succeed. This same feeling is creating a guilt in my mind and I have a feeling that God will not help me because of my guilty mind. Because of that I am not even praying. At the same time I know I will not pass without his help. I am terrible at decision making too. All I am worried about is whether I am gonna do well this time or gonna panic like before. I need help.
@fairmindedMap1086
I am willing to try to help you reach this goal.
@WillNotEverJudge Thanks a lot pal. I tried to PM you, but am not able to as i am not a teen. I am 24 now, Unfortunately, a 24 year old student. I really need help from someone
@WillNotEverJudge If you know anyone else who could, Please let them know of this k
@fairmindedMap1086 Hello! I know that is hard to you. But you know, you can succeed too. all you need is to believe to yourself. You may be diagnosed with depression, but that doesn't mean that you can't succeed. If you believe to yourself you can do whatever you want. God will help you, if you help yourself.
@TryToSmile23 I am just losing hope everyday. i am finding excuses and it is like i am comfortable with that. but that is not i want. i want find a hope which i do not have now..please help
@fairmindedMap1086
It sounds like you have a few challenges ahead, and that you have to desire to tackle them! The fact that you persist, even after your "failures" tells me that you have what it takes to achieve your goals. It sounds like you just need a good buddy to walk beside you as you move forward, and help clarify the true obstacles so that you can move around them. Ive spent half my life as a student, and would be happy to do what I can to help you move forward. Please feel free to PM me if you would like to give me a try. :)
My goal is to attend school three days a week. I have really bad social anxiety and most days either my depression is too bad to get up and go to school or my mania is too bad to sit still and focus. I haven't been to school at all in a few weeks, so I'd like to get up to three days a week by the end of the calendar year.
@IntelligentOwl8242 If you don't have a listener supporting you with this already, I'd love to try and help you achieve this goal. :)
@IntelligentOwl8242 I'd definitely be up for helping you out with this!
@IntelligentOwl8242 I am a new member here, and just saw your post. My own son has been struggling with this for almost two years so I know what a challenge it is every day. I hope you find the help, support and encouragement you need to take it one day at a time, and learn to Be Kind to yourself.
I would like to be successful upon keeping up with my school work, I'm not the greatest for inspiration to keep up on my work, and I don't have much time to keep myself motivated, if it can be done I'd like a listener to check up twice a week if possible
@AutoPhobia hey, I know how hard it is to keep motivated. If you'd like, you can message me :)
@AutoPhobia hey! please do feel free to connect with me too! i know really well how it feels to be unmotivated, and together we can work together on being motivated for our work!
@buttonedprincess I would love to, but it seems you only listen to other adults, not teens
This sounds like a great idea! To start off, I would appreciate a listeners help and encouragement in my goal of reaching out to a friend to spend some time together at least once a week. I'm just finishing up my first semester of college at the moment, and I'm finding myself becoming more and more reclusive, simply spending any extra free time in my dorm. I think making a point of connecting with someone else even once a week will really help prevent me from doing this, and also enable me to work through my anxiety and depression a bit as well. So, I would love to have a listener who will follow up with me on reaching this goal once a week, but would also appreciate being able to talk with them at other times as well. Thanks so much! :)
@Hope101914 Hi. Your goal sounds great. If you want I'd like to check in with you once a week. I'm a student myself which I think would make it easier to talk to me =)
Hey @Hope101914, I have personally experienced the struggles of depression, anxiety and isolation myself on & off throughout my adult life, so I resonate with your situation. Feel free to reach me if you want me to coach you. All the best, Alan.
@AlanRY and @BatWings89 double check the member's profile. If you aren't an adult teen listener, teen members can't message you :)
@Helena94, thank you. I had not realized such important detail.
@Hope101914, I understand I won't be allowed to work together with you, as I'm not a teen listener. I do wish you calm & success in your endeavor, we're together in this journey! Best, Alan.
@Helena94 To bad, sorry I'm assumed that.
Will make sure to check next time.
@BatWings89 and @AlanRY
Thank you both so much for being willing, it means a lot! :) However, yes as I should have mentioned earlier, I am a teen still and so will need to be in contact with a teen listener.
@Hope101914
Hi Hope,
I can listen to teens and would be happy to work with you :)
@BatWings89 and @AlanRY You're still awesome for offering your support!!
@Hope101914 Hi, I think that sounds like an amazing goal, and I'd be willing to help you work towards it! I am a teen listener, so that part is fine. If you'd like, you could message me!
can people pop down whether they are adults or teens so we dont get adults trying to check in with teens etc
This is proving to be very necessary. @Laura, perhaps having separate threads for the teen and the adult sides would eliminate much of the confusion generating from listeners volunteering to help members who can't contact them?
@Laura, that's a great project! I have really big hopes about how it will turn up for the whole community.
Also, I just want yo point out that there's no active link directing to the "tack your progress!" thread in the member's section of your post.
Again, wonderful idea - thank you for coming up with it ^^
@Celaeno Thanks for letting me know! Made the update :)
My goal this year is to fight for the voiceless
i want to create a blog where I express myself and expose the truth behind slaughterhouse
i will seize the opportunity to share my personalized vegan recipes
@Ksha97 hey!! i'd be willing to help you out with this goal if you dont already have a listener helping you!! let me know:)
@Ksha97
I'd be glad to help you with your goal, please send me a pm if you would like to work together.
My goal is to simply make it through this semester of college. It's my first semester, and I haven't been in school for 4 years. Even when I was in high school I didn't do very well. I want to stay in school, keep my grades up, and pass my classes. I'd like a listener to check in with me twice a week to see how I am doing and keep pushing me to achieve this goal.
@Sadainea Hello Sadainea. I would like to check in with you. I'm @ Uni and I know from experiences how stressful semesters can be and how challenging, because they are so different from highschool.
Goal: Go to the gym at least 4 times a week. More would be better but let's take baby steps first!
Goal: Work on time management. I struggle with this greatly due to ADHD. Half the time I don't even know where to begin!
@RedSpeed
hi,
i would love to help you with this. Please pm me :)
As my goal, I would like to become more outgoing and speak in class. I would also like to become less sensitive and have higher esteem towards myself.
@AngieLincoln I would love to help you achieve this!
Ah my apologies I have just seen your age. I wish you the best of luck though. I used to be shy and struggle with my self esteem so I utterly sympathise. 🍀
@AngieLincoln
I would be happy to help you. Feel free to PM me.