How do I feel less threatened/scared during confrontation?
I know this is incredibly normal and common, but I would really love to change this. Also, please don't tell me to go to a therapist or to work out more. I already do those things
The problem is that I get threatened too easily. You can insult me once, and I'll be scared of you the entire day. It's really annoying since I shake and get really scared even though I'm aware they're just saying stuff. People even make fun of me for it, and or I feel like hot garbage when it happens.
Like, I don't know why it happens or why I feel this way during arguments or when someone's actively being an *** towards me.
@ambitiousPine9287
It is fairly common as you have said and the ability to get past it probably have many options. Self esteem and confidence is built slowly.
It takes you to learn ways to let verbal statements roll off you......... in the moment you may feel anxious or scared but as you walk away and not run it over and over in your head. That is what is keeping you upset and scared all day. Words fade away unless we keep them alive by repeating them to ourselves OR telling the story of a person said this to another person.
People IF they know they can live in your thoughts all day and stay rent free in your head it is a reason to keep picking on you.
In your thoughts do you have comebacks in your head hours later or wish you had said something in the moment? Have you ever said something in your defense?