@Marina2004
I mean you could but I don't suggest it. It doesn't change patterns and habits in any real way. It's the equivalent of shaming a small child for just doing something normal like maybe spilling some milk. And that child will either slap a smile on their face and pretend everything okay and go around acting like everything is fine before one day blowing their head off or taking a bottle of sleeping pills with a pint of whiskey, or shut down and be very quiet, or act out all the time.
This can be very hard to remember and it's not going to change overnight. The same behaviour may drop down or crop up or sneak in or blow out at any given moment, or any combination thereof in whatever intensity. Maybe even right when one think it's turning around or that they had a handle on it.
This is when one needs to dig all ten toes and fingers in and hang on. Fall back on their self care tools and skills. Which people are absolutely capable of doing. Time and patience are the greatest warriors. And the pen is mightier than the sword. Byron Katie. ACIM. Marianne Williamson. Eckhart Tolle. Louise Hay. Glo podcast. Happy Place podcast. Brene Brown's podcast. Micheal Singer. Tony Robbins. These are just the tip of the tip of the iceberg of available resources.
There's a journal on here, or find an exceptional one or go thrifting, or both. Or an app.
Write. It. Down.
It's like siphoning poison and garbage and clutter out of your head and arranging it in a way that makes sense, like cleaning your house. Or at least looking at it with a clearer eye. Or looking at it. It is a step, and a step always leads to another step. Enough steps and boom, basecamp of Everest. Boom, second basecamp. Boom, the top.
The grief and loss process is helpful. Learn the different cycles. Learn about the abuse cycle. The unholy trinity of fixer, victim and aggressor. Learn about money. Health wealth happiness, baby. Learn to ask for help. Learn about your cycles, your hormones, the power of sunlight, magnesium, water, sleep.
I'm on my last brain cell so I hope this is making some *** sense because gworl whatever your thoughts and beliefs are telling you right now those aren't you but the results of trauma and heck yes they can be resolved. Just be diligent and there's no limit to what is achievable. Okay?