I don’t know
. Well . Hi . I’m an adult woman . Engaged to a man . But I think I’m a lesbian . I’ve identified as bisexual since I was 11 . But I’m starting to think it might have been a coping mechanism for some of the stuff I was going through . I can appreciate a male body . But not in the same way . I see it and think “ oh that’s society’s standards of attractive good for him “ but when I look at a woman it’s more of an awe inspiring undeniable beauty. I love my fiancé . More than I’ve ever loved anyone. He’s my best friend . We’ve been together for nearly 5 years . He’s aware I like girls but I don’t know how to tell him I think I only like girls . I’ve been telling him I’m confused and unsure and he just rolls with it . We have “ invited “ a few girls in and he says it’s fine as long as he’s there . But then we focus on eachother and he feels left out . He wants to find a girl who would be interested in both of us but I just don’t think that would work . I’ve mentioned polyamory and that’s a no though I technically have a girlfriend he knows about? I’m confused. He’s probably confused. What should I do ?
It might be helpful to just talk to them about what you want and how you might have to go your separate ways.