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Heartbroken for almost 2months

sunnyKiwi1982 May 4th, 2023

Been sleepless, can’t eat much, lost a lot of weight, cry much.

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Skansly May 4th, 2023

@sunnyKiwi1982

what was the situation that led yourself to this condition?


sunnyKiwi1982 OP May 4th, 2023

She asked for space. She wanted to unwind, breathe. Suddenly she can’t be in a commitment after 21mos of being in a relationship with me. All of a sudden too busy because of work. Said we should fix ourselves first then go back to the relationship. Then boom, just what I observed, what I felt, the gut feeling.. totally true..

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sunnyWriting4806 May 6th, 2023

@sunnyKiwi1982

I'm sorry to hear that. Your struggles and emotions are valid and it's obvious how much you really enjoyed your time in the relationship by the sadness your experiencing now. I hope you're able to heal regardless of outcome.

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sunnyKiwi1982 OP May 6th, 2023

@sunnyWriting4806


I am still hurting every now and then. I still cry. I can still feel every pain. My appetite is still the same, I’m good with that because I lost weight but just right for my height. Though it wasn’t a good way of losing weight. But because of almost 2 mos of sleepless nights, thinking, anxiety, depression, I have experienced a few bothersome aching in my body.

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SwanOfAges May 10th, 2023

I’m with you… personally I’ve been tracking when I’m:

• in my thoughts so much that I can’t get anything done

or

• trying to distract myself and not recognising how I feel


There needs to be a balance of self-recognition/ emotional processing, and being present in your external world to craft a good life.


IT IS POSSIBLE. IT IS. Although it doesn’t feel like it now.

How are you feeling atm? x

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sunnyKiwi1982 OP May 12th, 2023

@SwanOfAges

I’m okay. There are times that I can’t help but feel so emotional. Like there’s an off/on button somewhere I can’t reach and it makes me feel like I’m back to zero where I can feel everything again, like it just happened.

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SwanOfAges May 16th, 2023

100% understand that. I know it’s easy to get in the thought pattern linear growth but it’s so much more complicated than that. Your emotional system will sort itself out because that’s what it’s designed to do. All you have to do is let it do that and be there for yourself however you can.


In fact, it’s very similar to being physically sick/unwell in that regard. Your body is hardwired to make itself better, but that requires dealing with the symptoms that arise, as difficult as it can be. You are on the right path. Trust yourself ❤️

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