Trauma dumping
It's taken a long time, but I've only come to fully accept myself in the last few years. Just this year I joined an lgbt group in my area. I've noticed though that I have a really bad habit of trauma dumping on folks. I don't want to do that, but I don't know how to stop myself.
@wittyGrapes7678
Trauma dumping has certainly become a more common thing people do, which I don't think is entirely a bad thing so much as it demonstrates that people are needing a space to work through their trauma.
So first I would ask, do you have a space where it would be appropriate to talk about and process your trauma? Do you think having such a space would help you avoid trauma dumping by giving you a proper outlet?
Second, when you find yourself "trauma dumping" as you say - do you recognize it while it is happening or only after? If you do recognize it when you start, are there ways you could redirect your thoughts and sharing?
Just some thoughts/questions. I hope you take care of you!
Sometimes things just need to be said. If you’ve been keeping it to yourself for so long it makes sense that you want to talk to people that might understand.
@wittyGrapes7678
first let me start with this, you need an outlet to release words and feelings. 7 cups is that place! If your trauma dumping on a listener, it is their job and listener right to listen to you. That’s what listeners are for, as well as your lgbtq community, goes the same thing in forums. Yes some things may be triggering to others but others don’t have to participate or read the post. I would just make sure if you are talking about traumatic events you just write trigger warning at the top:)
stay strong, and thank you for reaching out!<3