Am i part of this community?
I am a bisexual woman, but since I am in a straight relationship many people have said I am not part of this community. They say I do not face the same challenges that you do when you arent in a straight relationship. And while that is true it makes me sad that all those people tell me i am not part of it. I do not identify as straight, nor will I ever be straight. Even when I am in a very loving relationship with my husband.
I just feel stuck between both worlds. Not gay enough for the lgtbq+, but not straight enough for the rest of the world. Dont know if it makes sense.
@Alwaysasleep
Hey there, I want to tell you that I read your post, and it makes sense. It is okay to feel this way. When I was younger, I also struggled with the words that others say and tell me. Now, I feel like maybe sometimes we don't need to care that much about what the others say. This is our life, and it could only be our life. I always tell myself that life is about accepting myself in different stages. No single word can be used to describe an individual. No single community can be used to restrict an individual. Everyone is different. I used to struggle with my identity, but then I realized that people are diverse. You are loved because you are different. Last but not least, I want to say that if you don't feel like belong to either one of the groups, it is totally okay because you are loved by your husband, and this is your 'community'.
@Alwaysasleep
You are part of this community!!!! Don’t let others tell you otherwise!
“They say I do not face the same challenges that you do when you arent in a straight relationship.”
The degree to which we suffer intolerance doesn’t eject you from the community.
If you people in the community openly challenging your “gayness” maybe re-evaluate your friendship with them. Having people around you that gaslight you and deny your internal/external experience, are bad to have around.
@alwaysasleep.
I probably won't give the best advice, and I'm not sure of very much accept my sexuality.
Being bisexual definitely makes you a part of the community, and having a boyfriend doesn't change that.
I definitely get the being caught in between the 2 worlds. I've never had a girlfriend, but I'm definitely not straight.
Tip of advice: don't listen to people like that. Just know that you are yourself and your bisexual and that's OK. I am part of a group of homophobic kids and I find it very easy to get caught in that. I'm a free Lance writer and I had a kid trash my art. It took awhile to be ok with the fact that I am who I am and no one can change thay.
I really hope I helped :)
Makes sense to me
You are definitely a part of the community! I'm sorry others have made you feel unwelcome.
