conversion therapy ruined my life

Hi folx,

I am here because I think I am finally coming to terms with years of conversion therapy to change sexual orientation. I mean, I accepted my orientation and gender identity awhile back, but I am just now standing up for myself internally that what happened to me was very wrong and that it is okay for me to tell people what I want and need. And that is good, but I find that I have alot of anger and pain and I think it is seeping into my friendships. I can't stand for anyone to tell me what to do. I think it is because it took me so long to feel an internal sense of validation and that I can listen to my own voice and sense of what is right. Even with everyday matters, I feel irritation that other people feel that it is okay to give unsolicited advice. I am good with feedback, support and welcome other people thoughts.....when I ask for that. But now I feel like one of my closest relationships is crumbling bc I told them I would like for them to please ask first before giving advice. They have not received that well and things are very tense. I could really use some support. I am not sure how to handle the situation well and I also don't know what to do with all of the only partially healed pain from conversion therapy.