Lost, realized I'll never be accepted by my family

Realized I may never come out as bi to my family after hearing them make transphobic and homophobic jokes while drunk. I am not out in my 30s as I have an opposite sex long term partner. I visited my family recently and it was going well til they got drunk and started sprouting right wing jokes about non-binary/trans/anyone who isn't straight and calling people homophobic slurs. The energy in the room was palpable as they were daring me to say anything (earlier in the night I stupidly made an anti-Trump comment). I kept quiet as I was working on something and pretended to focus on it. I really wish I had the courage to say something but I'm partially disabled so I rely on my family to help with bills and stuff and feel like I'd be cut off if I outed myself. I eventually went to somewhere private to break down crying. They offered me to move back with them,which at first I wanted to accept but between the jokes and the next 4 years I really want to stay in my deep blue state rather than moving to a purple one. I may end up homeless but at least I'll have the last shred of my dignity that I didn't move in with bigots that treat me like a burden. I don't really know what to do,but I know my story isn't uncommon except for perhaps my age of still not being out.