Gay for one person?
Heyy I'm 16 and until recently I was under the impression, that I'm straight since I felt attracted to men and I only had crushes on guys. Then a few months ago my mother and I started watching this tv show and I really liked this female character a bit in a way that I would usually have a crush on a male character. I ignored it by thinking that she was just my favorite character. Than I watched another show and when I started I realized that the same actress played on of the main characters in this show as well. I really liked her character in that show too but I again told myself that she was just my favorite character.
Then about two weeks ago my mother and I were watching our tv show and I kinda realised that maybe I do have a bit of a crush on her and I felt really weird about it. I also rewatched that other show she was in, which definitely helped me realize
Now I'm kinda confused because while I don't have a problem with anyone being gay, bi or whathever I just never thought I would be and I'm not really sure I am.
I have never felt like this about any other female person at least not that I know of.
Of course I saw other girls or women an thought they were beautiful but in this "wow she is so beautiful I wanna look like her" kind of way. I don't know if this makes sense.
Or maybe I'm just overreacting? I mean this woman is not even a person I know in real life so it shouldn't be a problem right?
So it's probably just a silly little celebrity crush but I just never had one of a woman.
Or can you be gay for just one person?
Should I just ignore it?
I hope any of this makes sense
@Lilachocolatecake
Hello! It definitely makes sense, and you've come to the right place.
For starters - it doesn't have to matter if you don't want it to. Lots of people choose to keep their sexualities unlabeled, and that's entirely valid. Sexualities can change over time, and it's totally okay to call yourself "mostly straight," or "questioning," or just "queer," if you prefer that.
But if you do think you might have a crush on this celebrity and finding a word to describe that is important to you, here are a couple you might explore.
Heteroflexible describes someone who is mostly attracted to the "opposite" gender and occasionally attracted to others.
Abrosexual is when your sexuality changes over time and describes people who experience fluctuations in gendered attraction.
It might also be worth noting that many queer people discover it through one person, to later discover they can feel that way about many people.
I hope this is helpful <3 It can be a long process, but we're glad you're here and taking these steps <3
-Elliot
That totally makes sense! There’s such a huge spectrum to sexuality, I’d say it’s plausible to only have the occasional/extremely rare crush on a woman (celebrities included).
The great thing is that there is no timeline to exploring your sexuality. You can embrace that exploration however you like, and there is a great community to support you!
I hope that helps :)
