Being lgbt in a religious household
Context: We are both from a traditional Christian household which does not approve of same-sex relationships of course.
My gf (22 F) has been under a lot of stress because she is very close to her family but has to “give them up” for our relationship as it progresses in the future. Ever since we got together (starting this year), she frequently gets upset that she has to let go of her family, her family will hate her, and get mad at me because “I don’t understand” since I’m not as close to my family. She also has gained weight and her body is starting to take a toll on her, which added to her stress.
It’s been happening now and then that we both can’t find a solution (about our relationship), but my advice was to just take it one day at a time and we will figure this out eventually because it will work out. I really love her and I don’t want to lose her, and I want to figure things out with her. But because she has been home a lot lately (due to her injury), she’s been “getting closer” to her family and I understand how this feeling maybe came up more. It’s been really stressful for me as well because I want to find a solution for us but the biggest thing is we don’t know how her parents will react when they know about us. This is also her first relationship and she is saying why is everything so hard, why is it when it comes to our relationship, it’s never easy and always needs to work things out.
Please, I need some helpful advice as I’m really vulnerable now and I don’t want to lose her. What do I do? How can I comfort her and keep us strong?