Are my parents transphobic? Should I wait too come out?
A few days ago, on Saturday, me and my family got into a big argument about trans people in sports. Me being trans myself, defended the fact that trans women are still women and that they should be able to play womens sports. My dad did not agree, to say the least. He said the trans women had an “unfair advantage” and even brought up Lia Thomas, a transgender swimmer, referring to her as a “guy” and “he”. I corrected his use of pronouns saying that she uses she/her pronouns, which made him more upset and he stormed off. I haven’t officially come out as transgender but I’m sure they suspect. But this whole conversation makes me scared to actually tell them. I just don’t know what to do, I don’t want to upset my parents but I don’t think I can go by my deadname or she/her pronouns any longer. But my sister is only six and she's autistic so she doesn’t understand what transgender means. I don’t want to confuse her. I’m just so lost. I can’t hide this part of me forever, but I don’t know when the appropriate time is. I only have a few years before I start college and move out of the house.
@OnyxMcG I think the most important thing here is your safety. Would you be in danger if you came out? Do you have somewhere to go if the worst-case scenario happens? I know this is scary to think about, but it's better to be safe than sorry. If the answers are negative I wouldn't risk it. As for your sister, there are ways to explain it to her so that she'll understand, but if you don't think you can it might be better to get some help if you can.
