Finding an identity
Hi community,
It's really nice to be here with you.
I apologise I hope I won't offend anyone with my question, but I really would like to understand from the LGBTQ community, how did you understand that your orientation wasn't straight? I would appreciate if you could give me some of your experience. I've always been in a ethero relationship but I always felt I wasn't. To be honest, I don't know who I am and I feel confused. Am I bi? I don't know. Is that normal? Please I would like to know about you. It might clarify something about me too.
I don't know if it will help you, but here is my experience: around my 14/15 years I began to have my first doubts about what my sexual orientation was. I spent days reading about other people's experiences, doing tests on the internet, asking myself questions without ever finding real answers. It's been so many years, and the only thing that has changed is that I've stopped asking myself questions. I already have my own identity and I don't need to label myself. For the moment I've only had relationships with people of the opposite sex, but that doesn't mean it will always be like this: I'll find out by living, and if I don't find out, that's okay too. It may make sense to be in a moment of confusion and asking yourself questions, but that shouldn't go so far as to undermine your peace of mind. You are you, regardless of who you are attracted to. Do not be in a hurry to get your answer, and do not experience this "journey" in a negative way, but with curiosity towards the new.
@Glodean
For me, I just started feeling different. I didn’t know what it was. Then I started thinking of myself with either gender and being like “huh yeah that would be good” and then a little while after I figured out my sexuality my gender identity started changing and after a lot of research and soul searching and trying out different labels I figured out what I like and feel like it resonates with me. I don’t know if this is that helpful but here it is just in case.
