And all I loved I loved alone
Hey everyone! I find writing on these things terribly awkward and constantly feel the urge to rewrite what I’ve just written, so I’m going to try to keep this brief. I’m asexual. Probably... no... definitely. I read the book Loveless and my feelings match pretty closely to the main character’s, so asexual aromantic it is I guess. Now what? I waited a full year to see if my feelings changed or if I was just immature, but now it’s pride month again (Pride Month with a capital P?) and I promised myself last year that I would do something this year. So... I breached the subject with my mom—just in a sort of joking way— and it didn’t go as smoothly as I’d hoped. Apparently being 19 and never having any sexual or romantic feelings for anyone ever is still “too young to know” and I should “wait 4 years”. I don’t want to ruin any relationships by pushing this topic, but I also feel like I can’t keep... is hiding the word? What I mean to say is that being asexual in the open wouldn’t actually change my life in any way. I just don’t like having to dial down that part of me. The resolution I’ve made now is to just stop saying I’m straight. I’m not going to run down the street waving a flag and I’m not going to come out to anyone, but I’m also not going to outright lie about how I feel. Wow... this was not brief at all. I’m not asking for anything specific, but any advice or comments or stories would be great. Just looking to get this off my chest and find somebody to share with. Ok... stop revising what you’ve written and just hit the button already!
that sucks im sorry to hear that
*Checks date* I'm a little late to this party, but hey. Better late than never, right?
I'm so sorry that your Mom wasn't supportive of you or trusting that you know best. It takes a lot of courage to speak about how you're feeling in your heart, and it sucks that she didn't encourage that. But let me tell you this: you are NOT too young to know. I promise. You know you best, you have a multitude of experiences to go off of, you see how other people act and feel, you notice that difference between how you feel and how they feel. But here's another thing: even if you were "too young to know", and you identified with a different sexuality down the line, that does not make your sexuality now any less valid. If you say you are aro/ace, bam, you're aro/ace. And if you do feel different down the line, that's totally fine! Doesn't make your identity now any less valid <3
Hopefully you'll still see this after so much time lol. And welcome to the community <3
~Sincerely, a fellow aro/ace <3
I can’t find the right words to tell you how much your support means to me, but my heart feels happy and a little less lonely. Thank you
It makes my heart happy that my words can help 💜 If you ever want to chat, about aroace stuff or about life or anything, I'm always down. You are not alone 💜