The world does not revolve around you, me either..

Today, more than most days. I am bothered by sensitivity. Although I agree being sensitive to another's plight makes you a good human, being overly sensitive creates a wall that is hard to over come. This bothers me to the core and I would love to hear different thoughts on the subject.

I am a shoot from the hip, honest, logical person. When asked or engaged in a conversation, I tell it as it is usually in frank terminology. I am not mean, but, I am logical to a fault. This means I cannot comprehend circle conversations, what is the purpose and why, oh why, do we need to go back to points that we have already resolved. When faced with a problem, I begin looking for solutions - this can look like insensitivity. The reality is it is quite opposite; I do not like to see people suffer and how do you fix it - well you come up with a plan... This does not mean I cannot listen to someone vent - venting is a good thing.

This brings me to a point, being overly sensitive.. I am not talking about caring, I am talking about being sensitive to ones self, one's person. This creates a wall that makes it impossible for real conversations to happen, this in it's self is creating issues in the community - here and in many countries around the world. I am confused and would love to hear other people's perspectives.

Here are somethings I have learnt in my short time on this earth.

1) The world does not revolve around me. Bad things do not happen just because I am me. People do not make decisions because I am. There are no forces working to make my life horrible or wonderful.

2)People are selfish. When I walk into the room and people stop talking, chances are really good that they were not talking about me. Why, because people talk about themselves - most of the time. Most of the time, people will not notice me unless I act abnormal - not because they do not see me or they do not care, but because they have their own little world that they are living in.

3) My friend is not a good friend. Most people are good people, well they try to be - there are very few people that go out with the intent of harming another person. This being said, no one can completely understand all of me. Does that mean that I need to be lonely? Not at all, that just means I need more than one person in my life for support. I have friends that meet certain needs, but they may lack in others. I do the same for them. This means, I have one friend that I tell my darkest secrets to but she is not the person that I take out on the town to blow off some steam. I am not the friend you go to when you need to wallow in sorrow, I am the one you have for solutions.

4) They posted a word that I think is mean, it is an attack on me or someone like me. Words sting, they always will - but they are just words. If somone posts something asking for help and uses terminology that may be offensive to someone or a group of people, it does not mean that that is their intent. Attacking them with feelings is not going to help them, but instead teach them they should not reach out in the future. Our world is getting more and more sensitive each day - in someways this is good, but that means that is hard to keep up with what terminology is ok to use. Instead of going on the attack, I suggest better ways to word it. This corrects the person but allows them to still be open without fear of making me mad or hurting anyone's feelings.

5) I am the center of my world. I chose who comes into my little bubble. This means I also get to chose who is not allowed in. So when someone says that they think XYZ about me, I chose whether it matters. Can I see truth in what they say and am I willing to do something to change it? If the answer is no to either point, than what does it matter? People are entitled to their opinion, there is nothing that I can do about that - however I can chose whether it matters or not.

I would love to hear different perspectives on this!