Family bullying
I've experienced family bullying since I was a child. My mum has always treated me unfairly and made many demands on me. When we have an argument she exagerates everything and tells my brothers and sisters who bully me too. They treat me as if I was a horrible person or as if something is wrong with me. I consider myself an intelligent, kind and generous person. I don't understand why they do this to me.
In the past five years, I've been looking after my older mother without support. They left everything to me and refused to support me despite they know I suffer from Chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia. Recently, I decided to move, so they can look after my mum, as I struggle. I have to protect my health and had no choice but to stop talking to them because they kept attacking me everytime they visited my mum. It's very hard that my own relatives treat me like this. I would support them if they were ill.
Has anyone experience family bullying?
@Delra47- Personally as the eldest I was not the target of bullying. However the youngest of our family has been the recepient of bullying behavior. It saddened and angered me to see my father lash out at him.
@barncat. Thank you for your reply. I am also the youngest. I've just moved out and feel better. Take care.
@Delra47 I can relate as well. so my dad called me a slut the other day because i didn't wear pants over my dress. the dress doesn't even go above my knees and i had shorts underneath them. the shorts had built-in shorts under them as well. its a long sleeves dress and isnt even a low cut where it shows my chest(my chest was completely covered up) and my mom did nothing about it. didnt say anything to him.. So I started crying and my dad said "Why the hell are you even crying for? If you keep it up, i'll give you something to cry about"
@thoughtfulPapaya2871
Hi
I´m really sorry you´ve been treated in such an abusive manner by your dad. It sounds as he´s very controlling. Remember he has issues, it´s nothing to do with you. You have the right to dress as you´d like, and he has no rights to treat you disrespectfully.
I suggest you learn about assertive communication.
Best wishes
Delia
@Delra47 - i'm the middle child.
my older brother was always most hated by my father and most loved by my mother. so anything he does right or wrong is 'wrong' for my father and is 'alright' for my mother.
my younger sis is the most loved and pampered by all. she asks, she gets. she makes a mistake, 'it's ok'.
for me, anything i do is judged by all, including my younger sis. Most of the time, i have to repair the mistakes my siblings make. And i never get to make a choice or have an opinion.
