A Rant on Pushing Relationship/Confidence Advice
These are some thoughts I'm having after having read the worst example of this I've ever seen. You can determine how useful they seem to be.
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So many people are either selling something or just trying to push advice on these topics and I think maybe having the opposite effect than what they intend, or what we'd intend by reading it.
It's all, you've got to feel this and you've got to be this. When people of all kinds find love and people who like you won't be bothered by little details.
Men, women, people of all kinds want to and should feel good around someone. That's the most important thing.
We do all need positive self-talk. Let's work on that, if we need to. Otherwise, I think we can do a whole lot better by just thinking of it as making sure we're around someone who makes us feel good and making the other person feel good and not worrying about whether we're enough this or enough that and trying to micromanage ourselves so we can be confident/strong ENOUGH. It defeats the purpose.
We are. We're beautiful and unique and powerful. We don't have to become those things. We just have to let go of worrying so much.
@YellowComfort
Sorry that you came across something that felt like it bothered you. 💜 Thanks for saying this. I feel like people should be allowed to be, feel, and do what they want as long as it isn't hurting other people. And relationships are just about trying to create a situation where both
people involved feel happy and enriched as a result of being connected
with one another. People are different from one another, so relationships are different depending on the people involved. What makes people happy can vary a lot, so it's hard for there to be any one-size-fits-all advice that will feel like it fits or helps everyone.