Bad habits
So recently I've been trying to work on my bad habits that were , and still are negatively affecting my life. I spend way too much time on my phone, have an irregular sleep pattern(sometimes I can get 5 hours of sleep , sometimes 11 hours) , I compare myself so much to others and have a lot of negative self talk. I also daydream ALL THE TIME as a coping mechanism because a lot of pretty bad stuff was going on in my life recently. But i didn't have much success in getting rid of them 😕 . I would like to have any tips
@23helicopters
getting rid of those probably is not possible almost everyone i know has those habits.....
phones you can be turned off or on silent .. try to be present instead of looking at phone.... small steps
sleep can be difficult but try to set a set time to go to bed.. schedule allowing.... daydreams in moderation can be helpful again in moderation.
the only BAD habits is when you compare yourself and negative self talk .......cut them down to 2
comparing is never successful because often we do not know the backstory ....... the part we do not see... negative self talk has it there right in the name .......NEGATIVE.
i believe we all have things we like about ourselves and when down or feeling less then focus on the best parts....
Thank you! I'm gonna try my best to be present but it's hard for me rn as I'm trying my best to escape my life because of all my problems.. but thank you so much for answering :)
We're living the same life @23helicopters, i have wasted too much time on my phone b4, and everyday the same thought process went through my head "I'm wasting way too much time in this thing, today I'm definitely gonna delete _____ app" and safe to say, I didn't do it and this kept on looping...
But recently i deleted all those distracting apps without thinking much about it and i can guarantee eventhough not all of the problems are gonna go away, it def helps. So i believe it's only about the matter of breaking that procrastinating cycle, cus once u have removed the apps eventhough u can login through the browser, u Wouldn't, 'cause it's just too much effort.
Now, about the negative self talk, i would say it'll take some time to improve on that... But u can surely hasten it up by reading self help books, philosophy etc...
I've tried to do it with I nstagram but it didn't work. I downloaded it again just a day after. I should try to do this again but I don't think it will work.. but it's cool that it worked for you!
Yeah, I'm rather impatient about this and, well it's true that it takes time to work on this. I'm also not in a good environment to do that because in my class everyone is just so obsessed with looks. It feels like they go to class only to show off their outfits. And it's really easy to start comparing and being negative about yourself in such an environment.
@23helicopters
This sounds like a more extreme version of me.
Take some time off for self-care, lots of it
@23helicopters
Here is the link to find 7Cups free Community growth paths and their resources.
Click "Community" and enter your search terms.
https://www.7cups.com/path/modifier/
Regarding "So recently I've been trying to work on my bad habits that were , and still are negatively affecting my life."
- The Tiny Habits book explains how to replace habits. You can get free training and coaching too, no book required.
- The free 7 Cups community growth paths have free resources on habit improvement and overcoming procrastination and many other related topics.
Regarding "I spend way too much time on my phone, have an irregular sleep pattern(sometimes I can get 5 hours of sleep , sometimes 11 hours) ,"
- The free 7 Cups community growth paths have free resources on sleep improvement including a link to a customized path.
Regarding "I compare myself so much to others and have a lot of negative self talk."
- The 7 Cups community growth paths have free resources on "The Drama Triangle" and how to spot it and get out.
Regarding "I also daydream ALL THE TIME as a coping mechanism because a lot of pretty bad stuff was going on in my life recently. But i didn't have much success in getting rid of them 😕 . I would like to have any tips"
- The free "Drama Triangle" growth path applies here too perhaps.
- There is a free growth path for "Getting Unstuck" that covers many kinds of situations a person can be in.
Again, here is the link to find 7Cups free Community growth paths mentioned above and their resources.
Click "Community" and enter your search terms.
https://www.7cups.com/path/modifier/
@23helicopters
Top Ten Tips for Positive Habits
1. RAIN- recognize, allow, investigate, nourish.
2. CARE- clear communication, award achievements, recognition and reward, empathy.
3. The Four Agreements- take nothing personally, assume nothing, do your best, be impeccable with your word.
4. Gimmie a Break- stop every two hours and rest for five minutes
5. Reduce Harm- have coffee every morning? Try an apple instead.
6. Think Positive- try think at least one positive thought for every negative one
7. Journal- gratitude journals are proven to increase happiness, health and wealth over a six week period
8. Appy Hour- use an app like Fabulous, Headspace or Finch to stay motivated
9. Be boring- doing things like staying on top of chores and hygiene might be boring but it pays off big time
10. Laugh it off- learn to take life a little less seriously. Spend some time in nature or around children; that always lightens the load
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Thank youuuuu!! That's such great tips!! I'm gonna try them all out! Thank you!
@23helicopters
I get on average about 6.5 hours of sleep every night.
I have found that going to bed and waking up at the same times every day helps a lot.
Also exercise helps a lot.
And of course avoiding stimulants such as coffee.
Some times white noise or the Tv in the background can help people sleep, listening to music or reading a boring book or journaling are some things that i try to get back to my old sleep behaviors before 1/21/2020 happened