parent loss
I lost my dad a year ago, i didn't cry when i found out i was in shock and relief at the same time? My dad lived with my Grandma ,my brother, and my uncle and all of them were abusive except for my dad. I would go over to my dads house most of the time since my mom was always working. My grandma always talked about how mean my dad was and i was a kid at the time so i believed her, i loved my dad but the things my grandma told me about him stuck with me. Now his death is hitting me really bad since his birthday is on the 17th, i rlly just felt like getting this off my chest since im losing it rnðŸ˜
I forgot i made a post about this like a couple months ago my badðŸ˜ðŸ˜ but it totally felt good to say it again
@Heathermasonsbiggestfan
it is ok to talk about as this many times as you need.... it may pop up in your mind when a certain date rolls around or something else reminds you. sometimes i have that about my mom and she has been gone 6 years
It is hard to try and think through items about someone after they are gone ... i found out many things about mom after sharing touching stories with some others and it made me sad i had limited view and missed some things about her.
@Heathermasonsbiggestfan
That's such a heartbreaking and complex situation!
On the one hand, you lost someone who was a safe haven for you, a person who loved you and cared for you in a way you needed.
At the same time, he was a victim of other family members who had such a negative impact on you. So his memory brings back memories of that family conflict and abusive people.
This was a complicated issue to go through, and it makes total sense that you felt a mixture of sadness, relief, and a sense of things pending to be resolved.
Sometimes things that have been dormant resurface with full force, like your current intense grief now that your Dad's birthday is approaching.
I wish you that you find ways to cope with so much sorrow, and I send you a safe virtual hug, if this is ok with you.
All the best in these trying times!
Marcelo.
@Heathermasonsbiggestfan I agree with what Tiger said when they said you are free to talk about this however many times you like. It doesn't matter if you shared about it the other month, yesterday, or share again next week... If it will help aid you in your times of grieving and help you in the healing process, then do it. I think this is a healthy way of releasing your feelings. ♡ I would like to say I'm sorry for your loss of your father. If he was a good man to you and you felt safe, then please hold onto those memories of him. He was your father and you loved him. It's ok if you didn't cry when you heard of his death. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. You do what works for you. Also, I can't imagine the feelings you may have felt upon hearing certain things about your father. I hope that you don't let other people's views and opinions color how you feel or change the love you feel for your father. I hope he continues to RIP and I hope you find peace and healing. ♡ Xoxo. Take care.