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I lost my grandmother.

User Profile: Kaiiya
Kaiiya 7 hours ago

We weren't actually related, but she meant so much to me and i guess i just couldn't let go of her as quickly as i thought i would. She died four years ago. She had heart problems and in the middle of surgery, something went wrong and she was gone. I don't know what to do. And now recently, my aunt passed aswell. She had cancer. I have no idea how it happened, because a few weeks before that she was still okay. And i remember crying to my mom and she promised that my aunt would be okay. And then she passed. My mom told me that the last time she saw her(I wasn't allowed in the room, because my aunt didn't want me to see her state, which i understand) my aunt had said that she thinks i'm a sweet child and she would love to talk to me some other time. I went to her funeral(my first funeral) and cried my eyes out. I was so scared. I really miss them both.

Thank you for listening.

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User Profile: mytwistedsoul
mytwistedsoul 4 hours ago

@Kaiiya I'm so sorry for your loss. It's not easy losing people we care about, it doesn't matter if you're related or not. You obviously cared about her a great deal. And then to lose your aunt. Cancer is a horrible and cruel disease and I'm sorry your aunt had to go through it. Saying that last good bye is one of the hardest things because we often think about all the things we wished we would have said. Maybe we'd memorize their face better or make a recording of their voice. It hurts when their gone. Missing them is this constant ache that never seems to go away. It's okay to grieve them. Someone said once that grief is love with no where to go. I think maybe that's true. 

Maybe you could set up a little memorial or a collage with their pictures. Talk with people about them. Share some stories with people who knew them too. You can talk to your grandmother and aunt or maybe write them letters. I write my father sometimes and it helps them feel not so far away 💙