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Grieving someone who is alive

My whole life I was a daddy's girl. He was my best friend and I think I was his too. I haven't spoken to him in about 4 years now. I grieve the loss of someone who chose to leave me. He hasn't passed away, but instead decided I am not worth keeping. I see him out there enjoying life with another family and wonder why I wasn't enough.

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LostGirl92 May 22nd

@RadRazzberry8076 that must be extremely difficult and painful. I am sorry you are grieving. I am also grieving someone alive, my best friend, who I have not spoken to i 4 years. Over time it has gotten easier to adjust to a life without them but its still not the same.

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RadRazzberry8076 OP May 22nd

@LostGirl92 It's nice to not feel alone, but I hate that you have to go through that too!

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HopieRemi May 23rd

@RadRazzberry8076

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. It can be difficult to see someone who should have been there for us be able to do this with someone else. I can understand that you feel this way. I just wanted to offer my support and let you know that we (the 7cups community) are here for you.

@RadRazzberry8076 sorry about that your dad not be in your life 4 years and I know hard see you have great life with another family I know how hard that is deal with and my advice to you try to reach out to dad by email him or call him tell him how you feel because you only have one dad in these world from experience I lost my dad 6 month ago from massive heart attack give anything to talk to my dad again or see my dad again but that can never happen because he heaven now I am here if need someone to talk to and I hope enjoy life one day have your dad back in your life 

Hi RadRazzberry. I can't imagine what you're going through. Nearly lost my dad to a heart attack a year ago and it was so much. Now I'm grieving the loss of my best friend even though they're still alive but our relationship became too toxic. Sometimes it's too heavy to carry. I hope you still see your self worth doesn't depend on his selfish choices.

Hi there, I went through something like this too. I didn’t see my dad for almost 4 years. It was because of a situation in which I was deemed to be a shame to the family, “in my country people like you are st*n*d to d**th” kind of thing.


in the end, I was able to reconnect with him. I’m not going to say it was easy. But it was possible and worth it.


i don’t know the specifics of your situation, but if yall were that close it may not be too late. He clearly loved you at one point, y’all were very close, it very well could be that you can be again.