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Crying

HealingTalk August 9th, 2023


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Crying

I imagine our tears flowing into a common sea.

"All the rivers flow into the sea"...

We are all together in this.

Our shared sorrow is there, it has been for generations and always will be, as an inherent part of our human condition.

Crying is frequent when we grieve. We might cry. A lot.

It is a way of releasing strong emotions, particularly sadness.

Crying expresses these intense emotions, contributes to processing our pain and, hopefully, might help us cope with grief by releasing some of its intensity.


Questions

- Do you cry from time to time? Rarely? Often? A little? A lot?

- What makes you cry?

- How do you feel after crying?

- How are you feeling these days?


These questions are optional. You can add any comments you wish, as they come to your mind.

I look forward to your answers!

And I wish you all the best!

Marcelo.


Image: "Crying Woman" Candido Portinari - 1955 - Crayon on paper. Portinari is the most renowned visual artist of Brazil, and South America. He has a series of "Crying Woman" drawings and paintings, some of which are "too expressive" to post here.


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This piece was first posted as the Grief & Loss Check-In of August 11, 2023


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Kristynsmama December 25th, 2023

@HealingTalk 

mad part of my resolution for 2024, I’m going through even older posts and responding to them.

Questions - Do you cry from time to time? Rarely? Often? A little? A lot? - What makes you cry? - How do you feel after crying? - How are you feeling these days?

I rarely cry.  I usually cry when I see something moving that feels like it was meant just for me.  I usually feel tired after crying.  And right now I’m feeling pretty numb. 

Kristynsmama
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Kristynsmama December 25th, 2023

@Kristynsmama

iy cut off my answers.  I guess it wasn’t meant to be.  :)

HealingTalk OP December 25th, 2023

@Kristynsmama


Merry Christmas, Kristy!

You mean answering old posts addressed to you, that you didn't reply at that time?

There is a certain tolerance, I guess. People know that things might often become hectic here. After some time, they assume you lost track of their post. Most probably they might have also forgotten it. 

And also you have limited energy in a place of infinite needs.

So sometimes you are forced to do a "triage".

But it's always a nice surprise to receive a reply to an old post you made.

It might bring a smile to their face.

Like a Christmas present!

All the best, Kristy!

Stay awesome!

Stay in touch!

Marcelo


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diligentKiwi2473 April 27th

Hi Marcelo. . Is it supposed to be only one L?

To answer the questions:

I don't keep track of when I cry. I feel it is a normal amount.

Things that make me cry : missing my two sons. They are alive. They are being kept from me and I haven't seen them since July 17 2023. I was in vacation outside of the country for the first time in my life. While I was away, the other parent had the two boys so that they wouldn't miss any school. They decided to change custody without my consent and in my absence. I don't have money to take it to court to change it back.

I am having a difficult time missing my son's and hoping their little hearts are ok. As they're being held captive from me.

When I do cry, it feels terrible dying the moment the tears are falling. Afterwards there is a bit of relief. That's because scientifically crying is proven to release chemicals and make you feel better.

Sometimes I cry from something trivial as well such as a romantic comedy.

These days I'm feeling fine. I just miss my boys.

What about you? What are your answers

ThoughtLight August 28th

@HealingTalk that is beautiful. Reminds me of a lot of old poems from the Romantic era. This sea is ours to navigate and master together and feel for anyone new who adds to the sea. Nobody here is alone.