no need to connect with 50,000 people to get appreciated
I am a fairly new listener here. I was given a warning because I spoke about myself instead of listening. I have learned from that. I am very proud of the fact that I am establishing rapport with members. I was concerned that I was not getting verbal comments. I have let that go. I was concerned that my cheers were not high enough. Was I doing something wrong? NO I was not letting The Real Me come forward. Now I have backed off from being self conscious and put those points of concern completely out of my mind. I am extremely proud of myself that I was able to let go of that warning along with everything else that was bothering me in my performance. I have 10 people that come back to me to chat as I listen. Although it is not getting reflected in repeat listeners on my chart, that is not my fault. I am being myself. I got and get repeat business DAILY. Summary: I got wayyyyyyyyyy past a mistake I made. Good work to myself and to all members involved in that process. It could not have been done without the members giving me a chance to learn about my inner value to others. I am very thankful for that.
Honestly I think we need to give more then listening, people need questions and personal moments and even tips as long as they are not direct YOU MUST DO THIS, and just ideas and such.
We have a wealth of expereince and thoughts and some
I actually value it when a listener has more to say. If they tell a story in a similar experience, that shows they can relate. I would not want them to get a warning.
Thank you I value that.
I think we all have so much to share and learn here. I get the whole we can get sued if you give advice mentality but... to share similar experiences with more value places on YOU doing the talking as well as tips, not advice but guided tip and ideas to explore I think is much needed.
I know I want someone to share and give good questions, make me think and share more as well as a tip or thought that can get me to explore myself more and even find some of my own answers !
Even if someone says maybe you need to talk to a professional you can trust or look online or my favorite !!!
Empowering thoughts and phrases make me feel GREAT !
We all need real encouragement and when we feel it truly comes from someone that care and does understand in some way we can embrace it and finding out who we are and what we ca do to grow as well as HERE find the support we need to do it !
I think it is MOST IMPORTANT to give the person seeking our listening also guidance and care as to what are their needs here and from us as a listener. Sometimes it is hearing not just speaking !
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MY LOVE and Care to everyone here both listeners and those seeking help !
Also I kind of find the system a bit flawed. Someone having a bad day can give you bad ratings yet you did everything the site wanted...
It can hurt when you truly care and also have valid experience as well as are maybe a professional in these areas, etc...
Their care back to us make us feel validated. No matter how strong we are. We all want to be liked and appreciated !
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