✿° The Importance of Setting Boundaries °✿
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The tendency to lend a hand to help someone in need of support is a beautiful thing to do. Being altruistic is commendable, but it is each and every person's individual choice to either practise their altruistic traits without a second thought or be more careful about how much they do for others. Whether you have been personally moved by Compassion, so much so that you do really want to go out of your way to help someone at all times, or are just really concerned for them, and would do the best you can to ensure their happiness, there are things that might need to be considered. Your happiness and safety are included.
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The moment you feel pressurised by the things you do to help someone, it might be an indication, a little voice that says "This is wearing you down, you need to take a step back, and see how else you can be there for them". It might go over our heads at times, and we would only find out how taxing it has been after all's been said and done. But by setting boundaries for yourself; understanding how much you can give, instead of focusing solely on how much you are willing to give, to help someone, you would give yourself the ultimate opportunity to be there for both the human that you lend a hand to, as well as for yourself. If you would like to know more about how we practise setting boundaries on 7cups, click here
Everyone deserves love and compassion, and everyone's boundaries are to be respected too. You matter too 💜
Questions:
1. How important do you think setting boundaries are, and why?
2. Have you experienced moments when you felt as though you were doing more than you possibly could for someone else?
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@DaisyDaph such an important and useful topic! I will keep is short and to the point. My answer to the questions are:
1. I think it is the foundation of human well being. It is necessary because when someone is asking for help that person is expressing his/her/their needs. If I am not compatible then I should assertively express my own limitations. In that way, that person gets the opportunity to get the help from another person who is more capable in fulfilling his/her/their needs. And also, no one person knows another human being. So I can not hold someone accountable for breacking my boundary if I don't stand up for myself.
2. I have experienced such moments. If I look back, I can realize that those moments happened because I was too afraid to speak of my mind. Also, I can also say that in those cases, I did not give the effort that was needed because I was not capable enough. So being honest would have been helpful for both parties which I will keep in mind in future.
@DaisyDaph
Hello Daisy, thank you for this lovely post.
1. How important do you think setting boundaries are, and why?
~Setting boundaries is very important for a listeners well being and mental health. It is to ensure that a listener is not burned out.
2. Have you experienced moments when you felt as though you were doing more than you possibly could for someone else?
~There was a moment where I tried to aid a member more than I possibly could, I was extremely burnt out, but would feel guilty if I stopped talking to them.
@DaisyDaph
Really liked the way you defined and explained the importance of boundaries and setting them.
1. How important do you think setting boundaries are, and why?
It's critically important because it defines how someone's life will move ahead and set clear expectations with others.
2. Have you experienced moments when you felt as though you were doing more than you possibly could for someone else?
Yes, in the past. But ever since I realised the importance of setting boundaries - no, it hasn't happened after that.
1. How important do you think setting boundaries are, and why?
2. Have you experienced moments when you felt as though you were doing more than you possibly could for someone else?
Answers:
1. Boundaries and setting those boundaries, to me, is a very muh an act of self care. They give ourselves and others the " rules" on how to treat us. Setting boundaries I feel a sense of personal power, a voice, and a feeling of saftey.
2.Yes - I have spent many years of my life doing this for someone else - giving up my boundaries and giving to another, even when it is taking away from my needs and even when i am wasting my time.
