THE SILENT TORTURE
Hey guys!
This isn't about something gruesome like you think from the title! I'm here to talk about parental mental abuse that most kids go through at some or the other point in their life.
Your parents getting angry with you, but not yelling at you? You think you're lucky!
But they don't talk to you or don't do stuff that'd usually do for you for days and you keep thinking what you can do to get them back, you miss them, you crave their attention and interest in you.
This is not normal! Parents have all the right to get angry, but giving kids the silent treatment, develops in them a fear of abandonment, a fear that they aren't worthy of being loved, all of which keeps growing in them and coming out as low self-esteem
Its a request to all parents out there!
Get angry with your kids, give them punishments to let them learn from their mistakes, but don't deprive them of love for even a moment....cherish them coz what you add into the early growing years of your kid is what's going to shape him/her in the future... Don't give them the silent treatment and then start talking to them as if nothing happened.
It gives them the message to not deal with problems, but to ignore them
Help them become strong individuals who can confront their issues and have self-worth
This is not some "hate-parents" post, but rather a love post so that we could make a world where kids right their mistakes with the help of their parents and learn to deal with problems, rather than putting them off
@hearyouout77
Thanks, i really need this right now.
While my late father was exactly that kind of parent who get angry and punished his kids, he would console us later and didn't held grudge. Kids learnt to obey and do the right thing, avoid same mistake. He was a funny guy.
But my mom is the opposite, she is very nurturing to babies and all her nieces/nephews but her own grown up kids. Whenever she feel upset she went into silent treatment, guilt-tripping and ignoring our emotional needs. Even when I try to understand her position and all things she sacrificed for us, I still find it unfair when she being irrational.
I wish for her happiness so she don't have to be like that, but sometime i blame my existence as cause of her pain. We're never had big fight but such trauma enough to make me think she will have better life without me.
To all parents, please humble yourselves.