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Feel like a hypocrite

ylesly February 14th, 2022

Hi

so a left my parents home almost a month ago. My entire life i have stayed with them. And yes im a full grown adult.

i left because they crossed a boundary wherein they used my apartment as an isolation place since early Jan a lot of us got infected with covid. I allowed it for a good 2 weeks, then felt resentful after then which started and explosive fight. The wife of my bro and my nephew stayed in my small apartment- to protect them from getting covid. and after over 2 weeks i told my family that its no longer ok that people are staying in my apartment cos I cant go there, and that it was not my responsibility anymore…

so now i feel like a hypocrite because i left my 2 dogs in my parents place. They were cared by my cousin. Now that my cousin is working back at the office- my dogs are cared for by my bro. The same bro whose family stayed in my apartment.


i feel like i preached and then dont practice what i preach. Lacking integrity


i am stuck because im unable to care for 2 additional dogs in my small apartment on my own, total 3 dogs. Besides, my apartment only allows 1 pet. I do have 1 of 3 dogs with me now. It is convenient and manageable. But im not going to be ‘understood’, in what i preach if this continues. I do now that my bro loves my dogs…but i do want to set boundaries. I set a boundary then i perform a violation of the same boundary towards others. What to do?

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Cain96 February 15th, 2022

I don't think it's hypocritical. It sounds like your family doesn't mind taking care of the dogs. Dogs don't hog the TV, they don't take up space in the fridge, they don't run the water bill up. It's completely understandable to get fed up of living with people, especially if they're not contributing to rent, for half of the month. I hope your family isn't vindictive enough to evict your dogs just because you don't want anymore people to stay over. I think that would be worst case scenario. I'm glad you took a stand for yourself and personal space though.

Best wishes, Cain

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ylesly OP February 15th, 2022

Thanks Cain. I truly appreciate some validation as I feel isolated and guilty enough.


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