Feeling Lost
I feel trapped! Found out someone that I have loved all my life betrayed me. I feel like I have to forgive them because I have special needs children involve, but I am hurting. I want to know how to love without being too attached so I can mentally move on. This person is the only person I have had in my life for over a decade, so now I feel lost after what they did. I pray that I am able to forgive, but it's really hard. The person apologized it seemed sincere, as this person never betrayed me before. So how do I move pass this for my own mental health?
Thank you!
@convivialJet8323 awww I'm sorry sweetie 🙁 but you know everyone makes mistakes, and everyone deserves a second chance ❤ but first you do need a good talk to him about your feelings, so you can move on from this ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ good luck
@Tinywhisper11 Thank you! This was really needed!
@convivialJet8323 let me know how you get on ❤❤
I’m so sorry you’re going through such a hard time right now. I pray things will get better for you. I believe that you should try to work it out and resolve the issue with better communication.There’s always couples therapy as well which might be helpful to you. If you feel they sincerely love you then you can decide if they are worth fighting for or not. Wishing you happiness and sending you virtual comfort and support!
I'm very sorry you are going through this and 10 years is just a long long time and feeling betrayed makes our heart more hurtful if you need a listening ear I can listen to you, also don't forget to self soothe yourself and take care of yourself dear, you are precious to 7cups and to all ppl around here, stick around here for more kind PPL and for some more emotional support sending healing vibes your way 🩷🩷❤️🩹
also the first rule is forgive yourself and your significant other and self soothe yourself and take care of yourself, it's completely fine to grieve and all the emotions you feel are completely valid and I understand as I go through it everyday after 6 years of breakup
When we ruminate and let this pain fester, it only harms us. It is okay to feel anger and saddened by the pain, and while we should take time to feel those feelings, when we allow them to consume us it is us who then suffers. Our bodies respond to that stress, and we end up missing out on other joyful and enjoyable things life has to offer. When we process our pain, we come out stronger, more brave and confident and ready to accept the many joys in life.
I'm so sorry you are experiencing something that should never happen to you. Betrayal trauma is very real and has a powerful negative impact on the lives of those who experience betrayal trauma. Please know you're not alone and there are some amazing resources online regarding healing from betrayal trauma. If you Google betrayal trauma you'll find helpful groups, books, podcasts etc. I wish you well on your healing journey. You deserve peace.
These are not my words, but from a therapist on YouTube i follow. This has been a life changer for me. I don't believe forgiveness should be your focus. Loving YOURself and healing after being hurt should come first, in my humble opinion. Forgiveness is optional.
@convivialJet8323 This can be really difficult. It sounds like you are in a very tough spot between feeling betrayed, while also wanting to forgive and move forward in the relationship. I would recommend reflecting on what you want the relationship to look like post-betrayal, as well as what you need in order to feel that trust can be re-built?
