inability to make friends on my own
this is my 2nd year at uni and im unable to make any friends on my own
im only friends with people bc of sheer coincidence and not because i pursued them 😠its very shameful and i want to change
p.s. do NOT reccommend joining a club bc i tried to 2 times and got rejectedÂ
@feefus
Hello, I also struggle with this a bit but this may help. If you want to find friends taking the initiative and just interacting with acquaintances will definitely help you. It may be hard if you are an introvert, but you'll get better at it the more you do it. You could also try to get to know your friends' friends if that makes sense so you can expand your circle a bit. Hope this helped in anyway :)
@ukiyoomi
yes, I agree.. Initiation is not easy. In uni life, I also could not have many friends but classmates converted to friends eventually because we had no time to explore somewhere else. The hostel was a good place for making friends. But we can not expect. sometimes friendship just happens. sometimes it's we who initiate. and even if there is no one in uni.. it could be sisters, cousins, brothers..Â
@ukiyoomi didnt help bc i dont even have acquaintances
@feefus
I understand. 💗 Right now you might not have the best exposure but with an open mind, opportunities will pop up. I hope in your uni in the upcoming days when uni-fest happens hopefully you can explore there too.. It might not happen today or tomorrow but in a week or a month, you will get a chance or two. Meanwhile, virtually we are here for you 💖💕
You can join a club, or a fraternity/sorority. Or join a volunteer group.
@PurpleFlower40 im shaking you like a fizzy drink right now
I’m so sorry I didn’t notice the edit. Is there any activity you enjoy? Hobbies? What about connecting with past friendships from your old schools? You can volunteer at a food pantry and make new friends there as well
@PurpleFlower40 i dont want to make friends thru volunteering, that sounds insincere
@feefus
I am out of ideas.
oh I’m sorry I didn’t read the last part, but if you live at Uni try talking to neighbors. Or do a community event with people who have mutual interests.
@PurpleFlower40 i dont live in dorms
Sorry once again, where you live look for community events to volunteer in or participate in.
I understand i tried making friends many times but differences never let me to .The last time i had a best friend was like 6 or 7 yeras back. Now that the years have past i got used to this feeling. I been in that situation. Thats one of the worst feeling.
