even fam taking u for granted?! - (answer me)

So ppl….

Basic question,

have ur distant relatives n fam taking u for granted?

do u also feel or experienced this like me??

Being naturally giving, gifts, letters, anything for their bdays, Christmas, holidays ….

But never got anything back…or got back just a bare minimum like one treat when u finally was like, oh they thought of me!

Or their simple thanks, liked it that another relative passed through you cuz even when u wanted to connect w ur other cousins, they didn’t take that step…

Or greeting u when u come n go but not talking to u in general at all….just see u acknowledging u “physically” there n that’s it. Hurtful. Enough is indeed ENOUGH.

NO MATTER WHERE IT IS,

ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT,

REMIND URSELF IF U FEEL LIKE GOING BACK TO THE GIVING “LOOP”…

Even if u feel like u might earn they love or care, attention, whatever it is, they will always give you less. The saddest thing is doing this mistake “belief” all over again for years…. They won’t give you more. Likely won’t. There isn’t rly “hope” yk?

It’s how they are. Not it is important to them, nor they value it enough…

And no, not everything is meant to be one sided or active vs passive. There are situations where it might be useful or the only option, but in any communication or situation, it shouldn’t be always just “you” making most of the efforts….

​Before I was looking at it that when I didn’t get anything, I was like at least they know abt me or how I’m doing that I think of them, they seen my gift, “at least” they did. Was my ONLY answer. I wasn’t overthinking it. So when it came to little “reciprocation” I was head over heels.

But seriously, what for?

No….

Gosh, u deserve so much better.

U always DID.

It’s sad when u got nobody in ur circle to see it. I wish I didn’t have such negative experience w ppl.

Maybe this is actually the worst curse - whenever it was, it always ended up this bad…..used n ghosted.

Take care ppl n I hope this resonates to same “old” givers like me. Old ways are absolute garbage. No, world is not kind nor it is useful to be always nice n caring like this. 

Give it to yourself, u need it so much more now…

Me.