What kind of woman should I be?
Hello all! Thank you if you are reading this words (:
I lost my mom to an illness when I was 11, from then I lived with my dad (wich it's a whooole diferent story haha, but mostly on the past now)
I didn't though about her too much growing up, and sadly I don't remember much about her. I saw her suferring so much and for years that when she passed a part of me was relieved she could rest.
But this week I have been missing her everyday.
On one side, the unconditional love. To have a safe place when life gets rough to rest and to feel protected, worthy, cherished and loved. I grew up seeing the way moms look at their children and it makes both very happy but also very sad.
On the other side.
There's soooo much knowledge from the femenine point of view that I feel really bad not to have. To have someone to look up to, respect and admire as a woman. I allowed some bad behavior on my only ex partner, that when I told some stories to my girl friend after we broke up, she told me that I shouldnt have allow any of that.
And I felt so very dumb and like I lack that femenine empowerment.
I don't know how to get that knowledge, how to feel stronger as a woman and what kind of woman should I be? I feel a little lost on that department and silly worrinyg to much about it haha
I hope you are all having a great week,
hi! im new here also and your story is very interesting. im very sorry about the lost of your mother. I wanted to ask if you have had any female role models, mentors, or friends growing up or even now that you could look up too?
it is hard to tell any woman how she should be. But I think that is something that can be learned and explored in the different interactions that you have with different women throughout your life. Having good female friends are good female mentors is a good start. If you don’t have people already in your life like that, then maybe finding people or interacting with different women that you share the same values and perspectives could help you kind of refine your own sense of self. joining different clubs and groups and activities is also a great way to meet new women and share your story and find people that are in similar circumstances that could give you great advice as well and maybe help you develop a better understanding of the womanhood that you feel you are missing.
-t :)
@purplesong I'm so sorry you lost your mum at such a young age 😢 you probably don't remember much about her, not only cause you were so young, but traumatised by her suffering and passing😞 I'm so sorry sweetie. Concerning your ex, nothing to be embarrassed about, sometimes we learn the hard ways. Next time tell your friend everything that happens with your partner😁 ❤ I've never had parents, or any role models either. So I understand how lost you can feel sometimes. And how hard it can be to see the love another family has, I'm sorry you have to struggle with these things too. What type of woman should you be🤔🤔🤔 be you, cause you are perfect just the way you are ❤❤ and with grieving, well some weeks will be harder than others. Gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ ❤ you are doing amazing ❤I'm always right here for you ❤ we all are
@purplesong
I too lost a parent early and understand how it effects me. I would strongly urge you to through trying out different views and find the only that fits you... be your own woman. it is hard as a child who barely remembers somehow to know what type of person was.... if your mom had lived maybe you would have chosen a different path then she was on.
One of the things I see is far too many think they need to be a certain way because their friend/ or mentor is...It does not fit them and causes stress trying to put up a act all the time. perhaps the best mode is not think about "type" or label and just be you.
@purplesong
"To thine own self be true."
I know it's a vague statement...it doesn't really answer all your questions. But as a general guideline, there is nothing better.
Learn from women who seem sufficiently wise & sensible to you. But learning from someone does not mean you have to slavishly imitate that someone. Remember this.