Struggling to Move On from a Disappointing Experience
I am still very bothered by the placement specialist who ghosted me and caused a lot of frustration and disheartened during the stressful period. My intuition is telling me this person isn’t going to help or support me in any way. I know I should move on from what doesn’t serve me, but I am still troubled by it. The thought keeps looping in my brain. I tried exercising, meditation, praying, speaking with someone, focus what I can control, reframe from situation and saging, but it’s still not working, the thought keeps coming back. What else can I do?
@McCayyy Well you’re not supposed to just drop the feeling and walk away free right now. It’s going to be a process. But also I’m guessing what has got you hung up is that they broke the socially expected norm. They didn’t follow the rules. They didn’t do as they should have. Damn that pisses us off when someone breaks the rules. Since you were the primary recipient of that injustice your likely caught up in the injustice. I would be upset too. But understand that the rules are a bit arbitrary. You didn’t create the rules nor were you given power to enforce sanctions against the rule breakers. So go ahead, rail against the fact that someone broke a rule and you were caught in the emotional pain of it having been broken. If you keep beating against it it might become like hitting a cloud with a stick. At that point your outrage might evaporate faster than the cloud. You have better things to do than kick an invisible dead horse. But no one will blame you if you need to.
thanks buddy…I understand where you are coming from. I probably just have to let time be the key factor to help dissolve the bad experience as part of the healing process. I can also learn to see what I can gain from this bad experience. It’s not easy, but I guess time will tell and help me recover.
@PineTreeTree
Just wanna thank you for your msg and reply in this thread.
I think I am able to move on from this bad experience. It’s all about finding balance in life again. Rather than convincing myself that I am okay or I am gonna be ok and it’s time to move on (when I know i cannot at this moment), I choose to acknowledge that I am not okay with the bad experience I had experienced, and it’s valid and I have the right to feel this way. These feelings are legitimate. Also, It’s okay to not feel okay at times. After spending time acknowledging my feelings, I went for a haircut, and to my surprise, I feel lighter, better and more refresh, ready to move on from where I was stuck. :)
@PineTreeTree
Btw, just in case u start wondering..
to me.. cutting my hair is a way of offloading the baggage of bad experiences, so that I can move on. :)
@McCayyy Excellent!
