Sister Talk: Ghosted, Red Flags & New Year’s Promises: A Hilarious Reality Check On Love and Games😎

Hey beautiful people, here we go again with my long speeches. (don’t judge me, okay?)😂

Okay, buckle up, because this is one of those stories where you wish you could go back in time and just slap some sense into yourself. If you’ve ever been in that dating situation where you feel like you’re playing a game but you don’t know the rules, this one’s for you. (And don’t worry, I’m about to roast myself too, so we’re all in this together.)❤️🙌

So here’s the deal: I meet this guy. He’s super popular in his field. You know, the type who probably has more followers than I have unread messages on WhatsApp. You know the type, well-groomed, charming, posts too many selfies with perfect lighting. Total *** heartthrob. Anyway, I’m not immune to the charm. And what does he do? He slides into my DMs, and I’m like, “Okay, sure, let’s see where this goes!”.

Now, mind you, this guy was smooth. Like real smooth. He starts by telling me I’m beautiful, pleasant, blah, blah, blah, all the things that make you go “Oh, okay, I’m listening.” But then, wait for it… he says he really sees himself with me in a relationship. Cue me getting excited for about 5 minutes before I stop and think, “Wait, is this for real or is he just trying to get me to swipe up on his latest story?”

Then, like the plot twist in every rom-com, he tells me he’s just gotten out of a long relationship. Red flag alert , someone who’s fresh out of a relationship should NOT be trying to get into another one. They’re not ready. They’re emotionally on shuffle, hopping between “Hey, let’s get to know each other” and “I just want a distraction.” But did I see that coming? Nooo. I’m like, “Okay, fine, you need space, I respect that.”

What does he do next? He asks me for my WhatsApp number. Now, here’s where I lost all my brain cells, he said, “I don’t want you to forget about me.” And I thought, “Okay, that’s cute,” like, maybe this is real. Spoiler alert: It’s not cute. That’s classic move number 1: “I’ll keep you on the hook, but I won’t do anything meaningful.”

Here comes the “I need time” speech. “I need to figure things out, I just came out of a relationship. I don’t want to hurt you.” OKAY, buddy. Well, tell me, why are you still liking every girl’s posts like you’re collecting them like Pokémon cards?

Do you want time to heal or do you want a dating buffet? Pick a lane! If you’re still out there scrolling through ***, liking stories from every girl you’ve ever met, that’s not “time for yourself”, that’s shopping for a replacement. Red flag! Like, seriously, how many red flags can you fit in one sentence? This guy was out here collecting them like he was starting his own circus. Ding ding ding, we have a winner, ladies and gents!

Then, the big moment: I tell him, “You’ve got until New Year’s to figure out if you want something with me. After that, no hard feelings, but I’m moving on.” Like, if you really see me in your future, you’re going to figure it out before the year ends, right? Right? Well, guess what? Crickets. No message. No “Happy New Year!” Nada. Just the same ol’ “liking all my posts” routine. I mean, is that a message or is he just trying to boost his engagement?😂

And here’s the golden nugget of truth I learned the hard way: If someone REALLY wanted to be with you, they would’ve shown it by now. If they’re ignoring your clear-as-day cues or they’re pulling the “I need space” act while also keeping a tab on your *** 24/7? That’s not “needing time”, that’s stalling.

Now, here’s where I need to roast myself a little, too. Because, let’s be real, we all make mistakes, right? If I had just listened to my gut instead of all the sweet talk and the “I just got out of a relationship” excuse, I would’ve saved myself a whole lot of time. I was so caught up in trying to figure out why he wasn’t texting me back, that I didn’t realize the obvious, he wasn’t serious. He wanted attention, he liked the chase, but he wasn’t ready for the real deal. Note to self, if they’re giving you crumbs, don’t eat the crumbs. Wait for the whole meal.

And don’t get me started on this whole “If they wanted to, they would” thing. Now, I know some of you are sitting there saying, “But I don’t always make the first move either!” And to that, I say: Well, it’s time to bust this myth wide open. I get it, you don’t want to seem desperate, right? You think, “I’ll just play it cool and wait.” But guess what? When someone likes you, they already know you’re into them. Even if you don’t text them first, they can feel it. So stop overthinking it and just go for it. If you don’t make it obvious that you care, that person could be out here thinking you’re just casually interested. So stop waiting for the text that’ll never come.

Here’s what I really need you to take away: If you feel like you’re waiting, you’re already losing. A person who really cares will be there, not in three weeks, not after they “figure things out,” but NOW. If someone’s making you feel like you have to earn their attention, they’re not worth your time. And you deserve someone who makes it clear that they’re interested, no guessing games. No mixed signals.

And here’s the kicker, we all know this, but we sometimes forget it, you could be obsessed with someone, but if they don’t feel the same, no amount of liking your pictures is going to change that. Don’t waste your time. Seriously. If they’re treating you like you’re an option, guess what? You’re better than that.

Okay, now I’m done roasting myself, but I want to hear YOUR stories. Tell me, have you ever been in a situation where you knew something wasn’t right but still gave them way too many chances? Or maybe you’ve got your own funny “red flag” moments that make you cringe now but you laugh about later. Drop your stories below! Let’s laugh, learn, and maybe, just maybe, we’ll all stop getting stuck in dating limbo.🥹