Self harm and guilt
My mental health’s been slipping and I recently started cutting. It’s my first time and it’s not deep but it’s a start. I feel so much anxiety and it knots in my stomach and makes me nauseous and numb and cutting helps ease the tension. My friend found out and he’s been so great about it and supportive, but I feel so guilty. It’s not his problem and now he’s stuck with helping me. He keeps telling me to confide in him and that he cares for me and doesn’t want me to hurt, but I want to stop confiding in him. I don’t want to drag him down with me. I feel so guilty and like a terrible person. I want to cut so badly, deeper than I have been, and cause real harm. I wanna confide in him so badly and let it all off my chest, but I choke up whenever I try to talk to him. I want to talk to him, but I feel like an attention seeker. Even cutting just feels like a pathetic way for a pathetic person to try and get attention. I don’t know what to do.
@littleStrawberries1840 Hi, you are honest person to write your thoughts courageously without fear. This is a big achievement. Everyone make mistakes and no one is perfect.
Friendships, walking outside, exercise, sports, and getting guidance from psychologist or elders can help a lot to control thoughts and become mentally strong. Never ever doubt yourself and blame yourself for any wrong happened in your life. You can repent it or fix it, if possible, learn lessons from incidences and move on to the next chapter.
If you have good friend talk with your friend all the time not just for your problems and discuss any topic. Do not feel any guilty or shame about it. Good friends always help each other.
Life is beautiful once you realize that you are valuable and likable person and try to find the purpose of life which can improving yourself, helping kids or society. There is so much you can offer and do. Enjoy every bit of life!
Hi there my dear friend.
Please don't harm yourself. And NO, you are not doing anything wrong when you are taking support from a friend. You are blessed to have such a friend...and there is nothing wrong in taking their support.
I know, it might feel as though you are using him...or you might feel that it is unfair that he is struggling with you... But trust me, these kind of thoughts are the ones that bring more pain to your friend.
The reason they want to support you, is because they care about you and don't mind if they have to do something for you.
Please, atleast for the sake of your friend, don't cut yourself anymore. Its okay to seek support from your friend. We are all ultimately humans. There is nothing wrong in taking help.
Please dear, promise that you would not try to harm yourself anymore.🫂
@littleStrawberries1840
hello i just want to tell you that you're not an attention seeker you are just struggling and asking for help it's not pathetic let your friend be there for you everyone deserve support including you your mental health matters
@littleStrawberries1840 Hello there!!! I am so proud of you for speaking your problems, it means a lot. You are brave person and everything will turn out good, don’t worry. I am so so so so proud!!! Be happy, try doing stuff you like and enjoy your friends’ company. I wish you the beeest
@littleStrawberries1840
you’re spot on about this all being guilt related. I’d ask yourself why you feel guilt. If you are someone who wishes well for others and yourself, which it sounds like you do. You are a good person. Some people don’t, and that doesn’t sound like you. Wishing you lots of love and HONOR instead of guilt💚
Hi littleStrawberries1840,
I hear you. You’re concerned for your friend’s well-being while supporting you. That's valid. That being said, our friends and family have limits and are not equipped to help with mental health concerns. In this case, I strongly encourage you to reach out to listeners and/or a psychotherapist on 7cups.