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passionateThinker3248 August 4th, 2023

I don't know why I do this, but I always end up in friendships or relationships where people always treat me badly. It's always the same things, they make me feel unimportant and worthless. I mean it's usually my fault, because I'm a hopeless optimist and I see the good that could be. Instead of seeing what is in front of me. It makes me sad because I genuinely love or care about them, but they don't love or care about me.

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Yougotmyback August 5th, 2023

Hi! *Sending hugs*

I'm sorry to hear that you had such difficulties in friendships and relationships. I can feel you.🌸


Sometimes we get stuck in a loop. A loop in which we allow people to hurt us because we get content with the 'bare minimum' they do for us. I can't give you an advice but I want to tell you that you deserve kindness and love. It's not your fault if you loved them, cared for them and valued them. It's theirs that they didn't and you don't have to punish yourself for it. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. See your own worth so that they know how it's done. 💛

Pick up your old hobbies and be with people who support you. Truly. And most importantly, be with yourself because at the end of the day, you understand yourself the most.


Hope you get out of this phase soon. 💞

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passionateThinker3248 OP August 5th, 2023

Thank you for your kind words. I truly appreciate them and your kindness.

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Yougotmyback August 5th, 2023

You're most welcome! 🤗🤍


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justjack2001 August 5th, 2023

@passionateThinker3248 It can be difficult and disheartening to find yourself in friendships or relationships where you feel mistreated. Please know that it's not your fault for being an optimist or seeing the potential in people. It's essential to recognize your self-worth and prioritize your well-being.


If you find yourself repeatedly experiencing similar patterns, it might be helpful to reflect on why this keeps happening. Consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can help you explore these patterns, understand your feelings, and work on setting healthy boundaries.

Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, and care in any relationship. Surround yourself with people who value and appreciate you for who you are. It's okay to let go of toxic relationships and focus on building healthy connections with individuals who genuinely love and care for you.

Self-awareness and self-love are essential in navigating relationships and finding the right people to have in your life. Be patient with yourself and remember that you deserve happiness and positive connections. Seek support and don't hesitate to reach out to professionals who can help you on your journey towards healthier relationships.
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passionateThinker3248 OP August 7th, 2023

Thank you for your kind and wise words. Gave me a new perspective to look at things from and a lot to think about. I appreciate it

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discreetTree389 August 5th, 2023

@passionateThinker3248

First, let me tell you that you are not hopeless. It is very hard to let go of others especially if they have treated you badly. But I would just give it time, I’m currently resisting the urge to text this not so good person and it’s a struggle. But it is normal, we just have to push through

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passionateThinker3248 OP August 7th, 2023

Yes things will get better for both of us. I appreciate your kindness, I hope things go well for you.

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